1 00:00:01,924 --> 00:00:03,272 I've got a patient coming to see me. 2 00:00:03,480 --> 00:00:04,688 Is it a girlfriend? 3 00:00:04,832 --> 00:00:06,169 I'd tell you if I had a girlfriend. 4 00:00:06,281 --> 00:00:07,079 No, you wouldn't. 5 00:00:07,928 --> 00:00:09,344 You're seeing patients again? 6 00:00:09,560 --> 00:00:11,056 I thought you were writing. 7 00:00:11,480 --> 00:00:13,585 Just the one book. People seem to like it. 8 00:00:13,688 --> 00:00:14,977 I don't think I'm ready to read it yet. 9 00:00:15,088 --> 00:00:17,440 You are recently divorced. 10 00:00:17,904 --> 00:00:19,864 I really don't know if I can forgive her. 11 00:00:20,056 --> 00:00:22,912 Rose is at a friend's house. They're working on a science project. 12 00:00:23,055 --> 00:00:24,472 I only see her two nights a week. 13 00:00:24,648 --> 00:00:26,584 Whose choice was that, Paul? 14 00:00:26,848 --> 00:00:29,714 Is this really how you wanted everything to turn out? 15 00:00:29,840 --> 00:00:33,696 Every day, it hurts. I hate my life. 16 00:00:34,664 --> 00:00:38,008 You're tortured by what you see as your failures with your patients. 17 00:00:38,072 --> 00:00:40,049 This isn't therapy, so it's okay all of a sudden? 18 00:00:40,161 --> 00:00:43,320 Don't tell me you haven't had fantasies about us. 19 00:00:43,441 --> 00:00:45,648 Your failures with your parents. 20 00:00:45,752 --> 00:00:46,791 My father's sick. 21 00:00:46,880 --> 00:00:48,712 He's got late-stage Parkinson's. 22 00:00:48,809 --> 00:00:51,504 Just tell me for once what you really think! 23 00:00:51,608 --> 00:00:56,392 You're a therapist who has remarkably little insight into your own behavior. 24 00:00:56,513 --> 00:00:59,592 You think I'm unprofessional. You've always thought that. 25 00:00:59,712 --> 00:01:03,617 You have done nothing but judge me since the minute I came back into therapy. 26 00:01:03,728 --> 00:01:08,088 I can't keep coming to you for the mothering I didn't get. 27 00:01:08,216 --> 00:01:10,056 I just need to be with more people. 28 00:01:10,175 --> 00:01:13,688 - Did you meet someone? - Her name is Wendy, we live on the same block. 29 00:01:13,824 --> 00:01:16,104 I'm sure we'll run into each other again. 30 00:01:16,336 --> 00:01:20,880 This is the point where I'm supposed to say my door is always open but... 31 00:01:21,176 --> 00:01:22,536 I'm not going to say that. 32 00:01:23,343 --> 00:01:24,489 I understand. 33 00:01:24,872 --> 00:01:26,241 Our time is up. 34 00:01:34,322 --> 00:01:37,391 You've got to give him a chance, Max. 35 00:01:38,726 --> 00:01:40,694 Well, you've got... 36 00:01:40,728 --> 00:01:42,763 You've got to try harder. 37 00:01:46,501 --> 00:01:49,469 Max, I assure you he has got blood in his body. 38 00:01:49,504 --> 00:01:51,672 I really doubt that your mother would move in 39 00:01:51,706 --> 00:01:54,574 With an actual warlock. 40 00:01:56,544 --> 00:01:58,512 Yeah, hi. 41 00:01:58,546 --> 00:02:00,514 Hi, Kate. 42 00:02:00,548 --> 00:02:03,750 Well, I mean, what do you expect? 43 00:02:03,785 --> 00:02:07,454 These things take... take time. 44 00:02:11,025 --> 00:02:13,193 No, I'm not... I'm... 45 00:02:13,227 --> 00:02:15,228 I'm not turning Max against him. 46 00:02:15,263 --> 00:02:17,130 It's the opposite. 47 00:02:17,165 --> 00:02:19,199 Yeah, but you're obviously seeing 48 00:02:19,233 --> 00:02:22,002 What you want to see. That's... 49 00:02:24,405 --> 00:02:26,373 Jesus. 50 00:02:26,407 --> 00:02:28,108 What? 51 00:02:29,377 --> 00:02:31,545 I just wanted to tell you to have a good day. 52 00:02:33,214 --> 00:02:36,016 I guess someone didn't sleep again last night. 53 00:02:38,086 --> 00:02:41,455 Wendy, I'm... 54 00:03:07,176 --> 00:03:17,329 Sync by n17t01 www.addic7ed.com 55 00:03:22,563 --> 00:03:25,198 - Mr. Sanyal? - Dr. Sanyal. 56 00:03:25,233 --> 00:03:26,967 I'm actually his son Aaron. 57 00:03:27,001 --> 00:03:29,035 - We spoke on the phone. - Nice to meet you. 58 00:03:29,070 --> 00:03:30,370 This is my wife Julia. 59 00:03:30,404 --> 00:03:32,272 Thanks so much for seeing us, Dr. Weston. 60 00:03:32,306 --> 00:03:34,508 You're welcome. 61 00:03:34,542 --> 00:03:37,577 So is your... is your father here? 62 00:03:37,612 --> 00:03:39,746 Oh, he's outside smoking. 63 00:03:39,781 --> 00:03:41,515 Baba? 64 00:03:42,850 --> 00:03:44,684 Baba. 65 00:03:44,719 --> 00:03:47,187 Sunil? 66 00:03:55,630 --> 00:03:57,464 He's just coming. 67 00:04:01,736 --> 00:04:03,904 Mr. Sanyal. 68 00:04:06,407 --> 00:04:07,941 This way, please. 69 00:04:15,650 --> 00:04:18,118 Well, I... I have to admit 70 00:04:18,152 --> 00:04:21,188 This... this situation is a little unusual, 71 00:04:21,222 --> 00:04:23,190 Because I generally don't meet 72 00:04:23,224 --> 00:04:26,026 With a potential patient with the... 73 00:04:26,060 --> 00:04:29,262 With the adult children present. 74 00:04:29,297 --> 00:04:31,832 No, we realize it's a little unorthodox 75 00:04:31,866 --> 00:04:34,267 And we really appreciate you making the exception. 76 00:04:34,302 --> 00:04:36,269 Thank you again, Dr. Weston. 77 00:04:38,439 --> 00:04:41,474 Mr. Sanyal, on the phone 78 00:04:41,509 --> 00:04:44,110 Your... your son told me 79 00:04:44,145 --> 00:04:46,179 That you've been going through a tough time. 80 00:04:46,214 --> 00:04:48,281 Is that right? 81 00:04:50,918 --> 00:04:52,686 Baba. 82 00:04:58,492 --> 00:05:01,661 My father is suffering, Dr. Weston. 83 00:05:01,696 --> 00:05:04,130 I think the last few weeks have been 84 00:05:04,165 --> 00:05:07,367 Especially difficult for all of us. 85 00:05:07,401 --> 00:05:10,370 Mr. Sanyal, your son mentioned 86 00:05:10,404 --> 00:05:12,472 That you've been in New York for... 87 00:05:12,506 --> 00:05:13,874 For what, four months? 88 00:05:13,908 --> 00:05:15,809 - Five. - Five months. 89 00:05:15,843 --> 00:05:19,246 And that you might be having 90 00:05:19,280 --> 00:05:22,048 Some trouble adjusting. 91 00:05:22,083 --> 00:05:24,217 Would that be true? 92 00:05:27,955 --> 00:05:31,458 I'm sorry, but I'm afraid 93 00:05:31,492 --> 00:05:33,727 I'm not going to be of much help 94 00:05:33,761 --> 00:05:37,264 Unless I can get some more details about the situation. 95 00:05:37,298 --> 00:05:39,366 Mm-hmm. Would you like me to...? 96 00:05:39,400 --> 00:05:41,368 - Yeah. - Yeah. 97 00:05:41,402 --> 00:05:45,338 Uh, so lately Sunil has not been 98 00:05:45,373 --> 00:05:48,141 Getting out of bed before noon. 99 00:05:48,175 --> 00:05:49,976 He hasn't been eating. 100 00:05:50,011 --> 00:05:52,846 He hasn't showered or shaved in days. 101 00:05:52,880 --> 00:05:56,082 And he hasn't actually left the house in going on two weeks. 102 00:05:56,117 --> 00:05:59,819 He actually got out of bed at 11:20 today. 103 00:05:59,854 --> 00:06:02,022 How do you know? 104 00:06:02,056 --> 00:06:04,324 I called home. Liza told me. 105 00:06:04,358 --> 00:06:06,126 - Liza is... - She's our nanny. 106 00:06:06,160 --> 00:06:08,728 Okay, so your father isn't sleeping 107 00:06:08,763 --> 00:06:10,730 And he's not been showering. 108 00:06:10,765 --> 00:06:13,433 He's also been rude to Aaron. 109 00:06:24,378 --> 00:06:27,781 Smoking in the courtyard doesn't count, Baba, okay? 110 00:06:27,815 --> 00:06:29,416 Oh, he speaks. 111 00:06:29,450 --> 00:06:32,419 Oh, he speaks beautifully, just not to me. 112 00:06:32,453 --> 00:06:34,387 And I see that he eats too. 113 00:06:34,422 --> 00:06:37,857 Only his candy. Anything of nutritional value is out of the question. 114 00:06:37,892 --> 00:06:40,827 He's an adult, Julia. He can eat what he chooses. 115 00:06:40,861 --> 00:06:43,396 Dr. Weston, I do not want to come across 116 00:06:43,431 --> 00:06:46,366 As the disgruntled daughter-in-law. 117 00:06:46,400 --> 00:06:48,368 I am aware that our current situation 118 00:06:48,402 --> 00:06:50,804 Would be hard on any family. 119 00:06:50,838 --> 00:06:52,806 But I don't think that what we're experiencing 120 00:06:52,840 --> 00:06:54,741 Is the usual disruption. 121 00:06:54,775 --> 00:06:57,310 The kids have started asking questions and... 122 00:07:00,548 --> 00:07:03,783 We are truly concerned for Sunil's well-being. 123 00:07:05,553 --> 00:07:08,054 Have you... have you been living with your son 124 00:07:08,089 --> 00:07:09,789 For the full five months? 125 00:07:09,824 --> 00:07:11,691 Yes, as I told you over the phone, 126 00:07:11,726 --> 00:07:13,693 We brought him over from Calcutta 127 00:07:13,728 --> 00:07:16,062 Shortly after my mother passed. 128 00:07:16,097 --> 00:07:19,299 Calcutta... that's quite long way. 129 00:07:19,333 --> 00:07:21,267 Just before Aaron's mother passed, 130 00:07:21,302 --> 00:07:24,304 She made him promise that we would bring him to New York. 131 00:07:24,338 --> 00:07:26,272 So can I ask you 132 00:07:26,307 --> 00:07:29,209 If your father's presence in your house 133 00:07:29,243 --> 00:07:33,613 Has always been this challenging? 134 00:07:33,647 --> 00:07:35,281 At first things may have been easier. 135 00:07:35,316 --> 00:07:37,717 He seemed functional at least. 136 00:07:37,752 --> 00:07:40,487 I mean, he was engaged with the children. 137 00:07:40,521 --> 00:07:42,422 He was affectionate with them 138 00:07:42,456 --> 00:07:44,624 And ate breakfast with them in the morning. 139 00:07:44,658 --> 00:07:46,626 They were crazy about him. 140 00:07:46,660 --> 00:07:48,461 They still are. 141 00:07:48,496 --> 00:07:51,765 I think he scares them now, Aaron. 142 00:07:51,799 --> 00:07:53,833 Did something happen? 143 00:07:53,868 --> 00:07:57,537 No, it's just a sense I get. 144 00:07:57,571 --> 00:07:59,739 So how old are your children? 145 00:07:59,774 --> 00:08:02,809 Sam is six and Naya is four. 146 00:08:02,843 --> 00:08:06,880 There was even a point when Sunil was teaching them Bengali words. 147 00:08:10,584 --> 00:08:13,520 - That's not true, Baba. 148 00:08:13,554 --> 00:08:15,422 What's he saying? 149 00:08:15,456 --> 00:08:19,192 He said he's no longer allowed to teach them Bengali. 150 00:08:19,226 --> 00:08:21,361 I simply asked you to stop with Sam. 151 00:08:21,395 --> 00:08:24,364 Sam is language delayed and it confuses him. 152 00:08:24,398 --> 00:08:26,933 We had him assessed, and he... 153 00:08:26,967 --> 00:08:29,169 He's not performing at grade level. 154 00:08:31,906 --> 00:08:34,841 I knew we should have come separately first. 155 00:08:34,875 --> 00:08:38,078 Is there... is there any way 156 00:08:38,112 --> 00:08:41,514 That we could continue this conversation without Sunil? 157 00:08:41,549 --> 00:08:43,483 Well, actually no. 158 00:08:43,517 --> 00:08:46,820 If your father-in-law is a potential patient, it's... 159 00:08:46,854 --> 00:08:49,322 I don't think it's gonna do anybody any good 160 00:08:49,356 --> 00:08:52,225 To dismiss him to the waiting room. 161 00:08:55,996 --> 00:08:58,031 The fact is, Dr. Weston, 162 00:08:58,065 --> 00:08:59,833 That Sunil has become such a shut-in 163 00:08:59,867 --> 00:09:01,835 That Aaron now runs errands for him. 164 00:09:01,869 --> 00:09:03,837 He works incredibly long hours 165 00:09:03,871 --> 00:09:05,905 And then he comes home only to have to turn around 166 00:09:05,940 --> 00:09:08,374 And go and get his father his candy or his tea 167 00:09:08,409 --> 00:09:11,711 Or his papers and his tobacco for his cigarettes 168 00:09:11,745 --> 00:09:13,379 That he then smokes inside the house. 169 00:09:13,414 --> 00:09:15,048 He doesn't smoke in the house. 170 00:09:15,082 --> 00:09:17,750 I caught him just last night. 171 00:09:19,386 --> 00:09:22,188 The guest room's on the third floor. It's where Naya and Sam sleep. 172 00:09:22,223 --> 00:09:24,424 And I especially don't want him smoking around them. 173 00:09:24,458 --> 00:09:26,993 Neither do you, aar. 174 00:09:27,027 --> 00:09:31,164 We've really tried to make this transition a pleasant one. 175 00:09:31,198 --> 00:09:33,166 We fixed up the guest room on the third floor. 176 00:09:33,200 --> 00:09:37,637 He has a nice TV, a DVD player, cable. 177 00:09:37,671 --> 00:09:41,207 We even put an orthopedic handrail in the shower for him. 178 00:09:41,242 --> 00:09:44,244 My father has arthritis in his left knee. 179 00:09:44,278 --> 00:09:46,713 So when it flares up, 180 00:09:46,747 --> 00:09:49,582 Standing becomes difficult for him. 181 00:09:51,218 --> 00:09:54,320 He used to play cricket, actually. 182 00:09:54,355 --> 00:09:57,624 - Professionally? - No, recreationally. 183 00:09:58,759 --> 00:10:01,327 Sunil is a... was a math Professor. 184 00:10:01,362 --> 00:10:04,264 He used to teach at a prestigious High School in Calcutta. 185 00:10:04,298 --> 00:10:06,366 Yeah, they had him retire early. 186 00:10:06,400 --> 00:10:09,769 They're replacing the older teachers now. 187 00:10:13,807 --> 00:10:16,242 You've obviously undergone 188 00:10:16,277 --> 00:10:19,579 A lot of changes, Mr. Sanyal. 189 00:10:19,613 --> 00:10:23,683 And it sounds like you had a pretty full life before. 190 00:10:33,561 --> 00:10:36,029 Is he alone in the house a lot? 191 00:10:36,063 --> 00:10:39,365 Well, Aaron and I both go to work every day. 192 00:10:39,400 --> 00:10:41,601 And what do you do for a living? 193 00:10:41,635 --> 00:10:43,603 I'm a literary Agent. 194 00:10:48,042 --> 00:10:50,109 What did he say? 195 00:10:50,144 --> 00:10:52,445 He said he shares the house with the nanny. 196 00:10:52,479 --> 00:10:53,913 Liza. 197 00:10:53,948 --> 00:10:56,316 Yeah, she's a lovely person, I might add. 198 00:10:59,186 --> 00:11:03,189 And occasionally the housekeeper too. 199 00:11:04,858 --> 00:11:07,026 And how do you feel 200 00:11:07,061 --> 00:11:10,163 About all of this, Mr. Sanyal? 201 00:11:10,197 --> 00:11:14,033 Would you have preferred to have stayed in India? 202 00:11:25,512 --> 00:11:28,214 I realize that grief is 203 00:11:28,249 --> 00:11:32,585 A delicate, complicated process, 204 00:11:32,620 --> 00:11:34,587 But it has been six months. 205 00:11:34,622 --> 00:11:37,523 I'm sorry, what is it exactly 206 00:11:37,558 --> 00:11:39,192 That you're trying to say? 207 00:11:39,226 --> 00:11:41,227 Well, I'm saying it's been 208 00:11:41,262 --> 00:11:43,263 A considerable amount of time. 209 00:11:43,297 --> 00:11:46,866 And he's surrounded by his family. 210 00:11:46,900 --> 00:11:49,168 And we're making an effort. 211 00:11:49,203 --> 00:11:51,471 I mean, we truly are. 212 00:11:54,108 --> 00:11:56,876 ! On the phone you mentioned 213 00:11:56,910 --> 00:11:59,112 That you have been prescribing 214 00:11:59,146 --> 00:12:02,482 Effexor for your father. 215 00:12:02,516 --> 00:12:05,485 - That's correct. - And are you an M.D.? 216 00:12:05,519 --> 00:12:08,388 - D.O. - Oh, so you're an osteopath. 217 00:12:10,224 --> 00:12:12,659 The Effexor isn't working. 218 00:12:14,395 --> 00:12:17,163 Psychoactive medication can be very effective. 219 00:12:17,197 --> 00:12:20,466 But I do feel that medication should be taken 220 00:12:20,501 --> 00:12:25,071 In conjunction with talk therapy. 221 00:12:26,240 --> 00:12:28,741 In Bengali culture 222 00:12:28,776 --> 00:12:31,377 Therapy is considered a shameful embarrassment 223 00:12:31,412 --> 00:12:34,380 Suitable only for the truly insane. 224 00:12:34,415 --> 00:12:36,449 I prescribed the Effexor 225 00:12:36,483 --> 00:12:41,187 Because I knew he would resist regular treatment. 226 00:12:41,255 --> 00:12:43,790 Mr. Sanyal, 227 00:12:43,824 --> 00:12:48,361 Do you feel like you're suffering? 228 00:12:48,395 --> 00:12:52,098 Do you understand why Julia and Aaron 229 00:12:52,132 --> 00:12:55,635 Wanted you to come here today? 230 00:13:01,175 --> 00:13:03,276 I think he misses my mother. 231 00:13:10,117 --> 00:13:12,085 Can I ask how she died? 232 00:13:12,119 --> 00:13:15,088 Complications following heart failure. 233 00:13:15,122 --> 00:13:17,090 There was an emergency procedure 234 00:13:17,124 --> 00:13:22,095 And she responded badly to the anesthesia. 235 00:13:23,697 --> 00:13:28,568 And that's been six... six months, you said? 236 00:13:33,474 --> 00:13:35,975 He said, uh, 237 00:13:36,009 --> 00:13:39,645 "six months, one week and two days." 238 00:13:42,583 --> 00:13:45,685 We were wondering if it would be helpful to Sunil 239 00:13:45,719 --> 00:13:48,054 To talk about his loss. 240 00:13:48,088 --> 00:13:50,890 He won't talk to us, but maybe with... 241 00:13:54,128 --> 00:13:56,062 Are you kidding me? 242 00:13:56,096 --> 00:13:58,097 Baba... 243 00:13:58,132 --> 00:14:01,167 Sunil, you can't smoke in here. It's rude. 244 00:14:22,956 --> 00:14:25,658 It's his favorite Bengali candy 245 00:14:25,692 --> 00:14:28,127 That he gets from the confectionery on church Avenue. 246 00:14:28,162 --> 00:14:30,363 You mean you get it. 247 00:14:30,397 --> 00:14:31,597 Sorry. 248 00:14:31,632 --> 00:14:34,233 Mr. Sanyal, 249 00:14:34,268 --> 00:14:36,669 A few minutes ago 250 00:14:36,703 --> 00:14:38,738 Julia mentioned that she felt 251 00:14:38,772 --> 00:14:41,674 That your grandchildren were afraid of you. 252 00:14:41,708 --> 00:14:44,544 Do you think there's any truth in that assertion? 253 00:14:47,247 --> 00:14:49,215 What did he say? 254 00:14:49,249 --> 00:14:51,217 He said she's afraid of herself. 255 00:14:51,251 --> 00:14:53,352 This is what I mean, Dr. Weston. 256 00:14:53,387 --> 00:14:56,189 He's become cryptic and cruel. 257 00:14:56,223 --> 00:14:58,925 I didn't want to say anything, but if... 258 00:14:58,959 --> 00:15:00,793 Sorry, go on. 259 00:15:02,896 --> 00:15:07,266 He is making me increasingly more uncomfortable in my own home. 260 00:15:07,301 --> 00:15:09,435 - Julia. - It's true, Aaron. 261 00:15:09,470 --> 00:15:12,705 - For how long? - For a while. 262 00:15:12,773 --> 00:15:15,641 I don't like 263 00:15:15,676 --> 00:15:17,276 How he looks at me. 264 00:15:17,311 --> 00:15:19,378 How does he look at you? 265 00:15:21,114 --> 00:15:24,684 - Huh? - I don't feel comfortable describing it. 266 00:15:24,718 --> 00:15:26,686 - Where? - Everywhere... 267 00:15:26,720 --> 00:15:29,655 In the kitchen, when we pass each other in the hallway. 268 00:15:29,690 --> 00:15:32,425 He looks at you? 269 00:15:32,459 --> 00:15:34,727 Baba? 270 00:15:34,761 --> 00:15:37,530 Okay, well, I think I'm beginning to get 271 00:15:37,564 --> 00:15:40,032 A sense of the situation. 272 00:15:40,067 --> 00:15:44,103 Would you mind if I spent some time alone with Sunil? 273 00:15:44,137 --> 00:15:46,405 Yeah, of course. 274 00:15:48,542 --> 00:15:50,810 Oh, should we settle up now? 275 00:15:50,844 --> 00:15:52,211 Oh, we can settle up later. 276 00:15:52,246 --> 00:15:55,214 Uh, you can wait in the room outside if you want. 277 00:15:55,249 --> 00:15:57,283 Or there's a coffee shop on the corner. 278 00:15:57,317 --> 00:15:59,285 - Take some time there. - Okay. 279 00:15:59,319 --> 00:16:00,987 Back in about half an hour or so. 280 00:16:01,021 --> 00:16:02,755 Thank you. 281 00:16:06,093 --> 00:16:08,227 - Thank you, Dr. Weston. - You're welcome. 282 00:16:11,498 --> 00:16:13,799 Baba... 283 00:16:19,673 --> 00:16:21,874 Bye-bye. 284 00:17:02,583 --> 00:17:07,253 When I was growing up in Calcutta, 285 00:17:07,287 --> 00:17:09,322 There was a man in my neighborhood 286 00:17:09,356 --> 00:17:11,390 Called Bankim. 287 00:17:11,425 --> 00:17:15,094 When he was a boy, his mother died 288 00:17:15,128 --> 00:17:17,496 Giving birth to his younger brother. 289 00:17:17,531 --> 00:17:19,865 So he was raised by his father 290 00:17:19,900 --> 00:17:22,201 And his mother's sister. 291 00:17:22,235 --> 00:17:24,203 His father got killed 292 00:17:24,237 --> 00:17:28,007 In an automobile accident. 293 00:17:28,041 --> 00:17:31,711 So he was left 294 00:17:31,745 --> 00:17:34,447 With his aunt. 295 00:17:34,481 --> 00:17:36,482 He never left the neighborhood, 296 00:17:36,516 --> 00:17:39,051 Could not attend university. 297 00:17:39,086 --> 00:17:42,888 And when his aunt grew suddenly ill, 298 00:17:42,923 --> 00:17:44,890 They were left with nothing. 299 00:17:44,925 --> 00:17:47,393 Years later, as a mature man, 300 00:17:47,427 --> 00:17:49,328 He could be found on my street, 301 00:17:49,363 --> 00:17:51,297 Polishing doorknobs 302 00:17:51,331 --> 00:17:54,433 With his mother's sari and his own leavings. 303 00:17:54,468 --> 00:17:56,402 Leavings? 304 00:17:56,436 --> 00:17:59,672 Feces. Feces. 305 00:18:01,208 --> 00:18:03,909 He was a great embarrassment to the neighborhood 306 00:18:03,944 --> 00:18:05,611 For many years. 307 00:18:05,646 --> 00:18:08,080 People used to call him Bankim Pagol. 308 00:18:08,115 --> 00:18:09,949 What does that mean? 309 00:18:09,983 --> 00:18:12,318 "gone," 310 00:18:12,352 --> 00:18:14,954 "crazy" in Bengali. 311 00:18:16,189 --> 00:18:18,024 He wound up taking his own life 312 00:18:18,058 --> 00:18:20,326 At Pavlov mental hospital. 313 00:18:20,360 --> 00:18:22,461 He hanged himself with the same sari 314 00:18:22,496 --> 00:18:25,498 He used to polish all the doorknobs. 315 00:18:26,833 --> 00:18:28,768 Where I'm from, 316 00:18:28,802 --> 00:18:31,437 This is the type of person 317 00:18:31,471 --> 00:18:33,839 Who needs psychological treatment. 318 00:18:33,874 --> 00:18:38,077 I think that here in America 319 00:18:38,111 --> 00:18:42,581 Therapy is considered much more commonplace, 320 00:18:42,616 --> 00:18:45,351 Mr. Sanyal, and I... 321 00:18:45,385 --> 00:18:47,987 Maybe we should think of it just as a... 322 00:18:48,021 --> 00:18:52,324 As a conversation between us. 323 00:18:56,997 --> 00:19:00,733 How long have you been smoking? 324 00:19:00,767 --> 00:19:03,002 A long time. Since university. 325 00:19:03,036 --> 00:19:06,405 You know, generally I don't allow my patients 326 00:19:06,440 --> 00:19:08,407 To smoke in here, 327 00:19:08,442 --> 00:19:11,243 But if it makes you feel more comfortable... 328 00:19:13,914 --> 00:19:16,015 Have you ever smoked? 329 00:19:18,185 --> 00:19:20,486 Yes, quite a long time. 330 00:19:20,520 --> 00:19:22,922 But I quit a few years ago. 331 00:19:22,956 --> 00:19:24,924 I have to say I still... 332 00:19:24,958 --> 00:19:29,161 I still enjoy the smell. 333 00:19:29,196 --> 00:19:32,798 Then thank you for letting me smoke, Dr. Weston. 334 00:19:32,833 --> 00:19:36,235 This is one of my few pleasures. 335 00:19:36,269 --> 00:19:38,738 Things are obviously strained 336 00:19:38,772 --> 00:19:40,906 Between you and your daughter-in-law. 337 00:19:40,941 --> 00:19:43,309 - Strained, yes. - Mm-hmm. 338 00:19:43,343 --> 00:19:45,277 So can I ask you 339 00:19:45,312 --> 00:19:49,448 Why you choose not to speak to her? 340 00:19:49,483 --> 00:19:52,585 My son's name is Arun... 341 00:19:52,619 --> 00:19:54,987 Arun, not Aaron. 342 00:19:55,021 --> 00:19:57,723 In Hindi arun means 343 00:19:57,758 --> 00:20:00,092 "the sun in the sky." 344 00:20:00,127 --> 00:20:02,061 When did he decide to change his name? 345 00:20:02,095 --> 00:20:03,796 When he came here for college. 346 00:20:03,830 --> 00:20:05,865 Aaron is the name of a... 347 00:20:05,899 --> 00:20:09,068 Of a spoiled child in an American TV show. 348 00:20:09,102 --> 00:20:11,237 That must have been a disappointment 349 00:20:11,271 --> 00:20:12,938 To you and your wife... 350 00:20:12,973 --> 00:20:14,707 That he changed his name, yeah? 351 00:20:14,741 --> 00:20:18,310 I cannot bring myself to call him by this name. 352 00:20:18,345 --> 00:20:20,312 There was a period of time when Julia... 353 00:20:20,347 --> 00:20:23,048 Julia wanted to call me Soony, 354 00:20:23,083 --> 00:20:25,985 Like the name of a pet. 355 00:20:26,019 --> 00:20:28,254 I'm sure that didn't last long. 356 00:20:28,288 --> 00:20:31,357 She named her daughter after a company that makes bottled water... 357 00:20:31,391 --> 00:20:33,325 Naya. 358 00:20:33,360 --> 00:20:37,596 Perhaps their next child will be called iPod, Hmm? 359 00:20:40,267 --> 00:20:44,236 So do you hold your son accountable 360 00:20:44,271 --> 00:20:46,272 For your granddaughter's name? 361 00:20:48,675 --> 00:20:51,010 Sometimes I think it might be possible 362 00:20:51,044 --> 00:20:53,979 She is contaminating him. 363 00:20:54,014 --> 00:20:56,816 My son is not what... 364 00:20:56,850 --> 00:20:59,385 What he used to be. 365 00:20:59,419 --> 00:21:01,520 In what way do you mean? 366 00:21:04,958 --> 00:21:08,394 Mr. Sanyal, is there any reason 367 00:21:08,428 --> 00:21:12,364 Why your daughter-in-law would feel 368 00:21:12,399 --> 00:21:15,501 Uncomfortable around you? 369 00:21:17,537 --> 00:21:19,405 I cannot imagine it. 370 00:21:19,439 --> 00:21:22,041 When she was trying to describe 371 00:21:22,075 --> 00:21:24,743 The way you that you look at her... 372 00:21:24,778 --> 00:21:27,513 I have no idea what my face is doing when I'm looking at something. 373 00:21:27,547 --> 00:21:30,816 Okay, that's fair enough. 374 00:21:32,252 --> 00:21:34,220 Well, can you describe what you feel 375 00:21:34,254 --> 00:21:36,822 When you pass her in the corridor? 376 00:21:36,857 --> 00:21:39,425 I feel like passing her as quickly as possible. 377 00:21:39,459 --> 00:21:41,227 And so do. 378 00:21:41,261 --> 00:21:43,596 When Julia suggested 379 00:21:43,630 --> 00:21:46,932 That your grandchildren were afraid of you, 380 00:21:46,967 --> 00:21:49,168 You answered that she was afraid of herself. 381 00:21:49,202 --> 00:21:52,605 At least that's how your son translated it. 382 00:21:52,639 --> 00:21:55,007 Is that in fact what you said? 383 00:21:55,041 --> 00:21:56,842 Yes. 384 00:21:56,877 --> 00:21:58,644 And what did you mean by that? 385 00:21:58,678 --> 00:22:02,248 Sometimes one is fearful of what... 386 00:22:02,282 --> 00:22:06,685 What may be an emptiness within, 387 00:22:06,720 --> 00:22:10,055 So one enjoys the affirmation of being bowed to 388 00:22:10,090 --> 00:22:12,124 By the nanny, the housekeeper, 389 00:22:12,158 --> 00:22:16,262 The man who comes to pull up the weeds in the garden. 390 00:22:16,296 --> 00:22:19,899 Do you think arun bows down to Julia? 391 00:22:22,002 --> 00:22:25,371 Have you noticed any effects from taking the medication 392 00:22:25,405 --> 00:22:27,973 That your son prescribed to you? 393 00:22:28,008 --> 00:22:29,975 The pills have no effect. 394 00:22:30,010 --> 00:22:32,077 You're sure about that? 395 00:22:32,112 --> 00:22:34,380 I'm positive. 396 00:22:34,414 --> 00:22:36,715 How long has he been prescribing them? 397 00:22:36,750 --> 00:22:38,517 For two months. 398 00:22:38,551 --> 00:22:40,519 And you are absolutely certain 399 00:22:40,553 --> 00:22:42,454 That they have no effect on you? 400 00:22:42,489 --> 00:22:44,823 I am 100% absolutely, 401 00:22:44,858 --> 00:22:47,026 Scientifically positive, Dr. Weston, 402 00:22:47,060 --> 00:22:49,929 Because I'm actually planting them. 403 00:22:49,963 --> 00:22:52,965 Sorry, what do you mean, you're planting them? 404 00:22:52,999 --> 00:22:55,668 I plant them in the soil of the Siroi Lily 405 00:22:55,702 --> 00:22:59,471 That Julia put in my room before I arrived. 406 00:22:59,506 --> 00:23:03,108 The Siroi Lily is the most popular Indian flower. 407 00:23:03,143 --> 00:23:05,711 So you're planting 408 00:23:05,745 --> 00:23:08,948 The Effexor pills in the potting soil? 409 00:23:08,982 --> 00:23:11,650 It is the most happy flower, Dr. Weston. 410 00:23:11,685 --> 00:23:13,719 It's flourishing. 411 00:23:13,753 --> 00:23:16,722 Fortunately for my daughter-in-law's bank account, 412 00:23:16,756 --> 00:23:18,857 It does not need therapy. 413 00:23:18,892 --> 00:23:21,293 So does she handle the finances? 414 00:23:21,328 --> 00:23:24,596 She handles the therapy, yes. 415 00:23:24,631 --> 00:23:26,465 She also gives me an allowance... 416 00:23:26,499 --> 00:23:29,802 $25 per week plus an unlimited Metrocard. 417 00:23:29,836 --> 00:23:33,172 She is my benevolent provider. 418 00:23:33,206 --> 00:23:35,774 Do you think it's benevolent? 419 00:23:35,809 --> 00:23:39,111 I... I do not trust it. 420 00:23:39,179 --> 00:23:42,514 Is there anybody you do trust? 421 00:23:42,549 --> 00:23:45,351 I trusted my wife. 422 00:23:50,724 --> 00:23:52,925 Do you have a wife, Dr. Weston? 423 00:23:55,862 --> 00:23:58,497 No. No, I don't. 424 00:24:01,468 --> 00:24:04,069 Julia implied that your... 425 00:24:04,104 --> 00:24:07,639 Your grieving for your wife 426 00:24:07,674 --> 00:24:10,175 Hasn't eased in the past six months. 427 00:24:10,210 --> 00:24:12,177 Would you agree with that? 428 00:24:12,212 --> 00:24:14,613 Dr. Weston, my wife and I 429 00:24:14,647 --> 00:24:17,783 Were married for 30 years. 430 00:24:17,817 --> 00:24:21,987 From the age of 23 until the day she died 431 00:24:22,022 --> 00:24:26,492 I spent practically every day of my life with her. 432 00:24:26,526 --> 00:24:29,161 I do not understand 433 00:24:29,195 --> 00:24:32,664 The need to quantify the process of grieving, 434 00:24:32,699 --> 00:24:35,567 This need to count the years and months. 435 00:24:35,602 --> 00:24:38,637 I was a math Professor, but this is not math. 436 00:24:38,671 --> 00:24:40,939 This is the furthest thing from math. 437 00:24:40,974 --> 00:24:43,809 It is only a feeling. 438 00:24:43,843 --> 00:24:47,546 And sometimes 439 00:24:47,580 --> 00:24:49,681 It is only a blankness. 440 00:24:49,716 --> 00:24:52,551 It must be very difficult: 441 00:24:52,585 --> 00:24:55,120 The loss of a wife; 442 00:24:55,155 --> 00:24:58,057 Displacement from... 443 00:24:58,091 --> 00:25:00,793 From your country; 444 00:25:00,827 --> 00:25:02,694 Feeling trapped in a house 445 00:25:02,729 --> 00:25:05,697 That you're not made welcome, 446 00:25:05,732 --> 00:25:07,599 Where you don't feel you belong. 447 00:25:07,634 --> 00:25:10,135 Whatever makes you say that, Dr. Weston? I have so many things: 448 00:25:10,170 --> 00:25:13,372 I have my small room, my child's bed, 449 00:25:13,406 --> 00:25:17,976 My flat-screen TV, my Siroi Lily. 450 00:25:18,011 --> 00:25:20,612 So there has been a discussion 451 00:25:20,647 --> 00:25:22,481 About another child. 452 00:25:22,515 --> 00:25:26,085 So they will eventually turn my room into the baby's room. 453 00:25:26,119 --> 00:25:28,320 And where would you go? 454 00:25:30,123 --> 00:25:31,924 Basement, 455 00:25:31,958 --> 00:25:33,926 Where there's not so much sunlight, 456 00:25:33,960 --> 00:25:36,662 So I'll have to leave my poor plant upstairs. 457 00:25:41,301 --> 00:25:43,602 You're not from here either. 458 00:25:43,636 --> 00:25:45,504 No, not originally. 459 00:25:45,538 --> 00:25:50,476 But we moved here when I was a kid. 460 00:25:50,510 --> 00:25:53,212 I had an Irish friend in the university. 461 00:25:53,246 --> 00:25:56,014 I recognized the accent. 462 00:26:01,287 --> 00:26:03,822 They are waiting for me. 463 00:26:05,325 --> 00:26:09,094 I'm very glad that you came in today, Mr. Sanyal. 464 00:26:09,129 --> 00:26:11,096 And I just want you to know 465 00:26:11,131 --> 00:26:13,499 That I would like to help you 466 00:26:13,533 --> 00:26:17,002 In any way that I can. 467 00:26:19,005 --> 00:26:21,240 Perhaps you could write me a prescription 468 00:26:21,274 --> 00:26:24,376 That would allow me to return to India, 469 00:26:24,410 --> 00:26:27,479 Where my wife would be alive. 470 00:26:27,514 --> 00:26:29,448 I would walk into my home 471 00:26:29,482 --> 00:26:33,719 And we'd greet each other as if I was simply away on a trip. 472 00:26:33,753 --> 00:26:35,721 Then we would have a wonderful dinner, 473 00:26:35,755 --> 00:26:38,290 Talk about all the things I did and saw 474 00:26:38,324 --> 00:26:40,692 While I was away. 475 00:26:40,727 --> 00:26:43,829 And later we would fall asleep 476 00:26:43,863 --> 00:26:47,966 With a bright mo glowing softly on the window. 477 00:26:51,371 --> 00:26:53,705 Can you do that, Dr. Weston? 478 00:26:55,842 --> 00:26:58,177 What was your wife's name? 479 00:27:00,780 --> 00:27:02,247 Kamala. 480 00:27:02,282 --> 00:27:04,449 Kamala. 481 00:27:04,484 --> 00:27:07,486 It's a beautiful name. 482 00:27:07,520 --> 00:27:11,023 You know, Mr. Sanyal, I really wish 483 00:27:11,057 --> 00:27:15,561 That I could bring Kamala back. 484 00:27:16,629 --> 00:27:18,931 I really do. 485 00:27:20,433 --> 00:27:22,401 When do I return? 486 00:27:22,435 --> 00:27:25,170 Well, same time next week 487 00:27:25,205 --> 00:27:27,105 Would be... would be great. 488 00:27:41,521 --> 00:27:44,990 Thank you for letting me smoke, Dr. Weston. 489 00:27:45,024 --> 00:27:48,393 I hope it doesn't offend your other visitors. 490 00:27:48,428 --> 00:27:50,362 I'll open a window. 491 00:27:50,396 --> 00:27:54,399 You know, like I said, I still miss the smell. 492 00:27:54,434 --> 00:27:57,569 Good day, doctor. 493 00:27:57,604 --> 00:27:59,705 Good day to you. 494 00:28:20,960 --> 00:28:23,790 Sync by n17t01 www.addic7ed.com