1 00:00:07,000 --> 00:00:08,991 Previously on In Treatment. 2 00:00:09,520 --> 00:00:11,909 Let's just cut to the chase, OK? 3 00:00:11,960 --> 00:00:14,315 I'm standing in the street near the bomb site. 4 00:00:14,360 --> 00:00:16,794 It's like London after the Blitz, just rubble, 5 00:00:16,840 --> 00:00:18,398 and all because of what I did. 6 00:00:18,440 --> 00:00:22,479 I knew this should have been the trauma of my life, but I felt... 7 00:00:22,520 --> 00:00:23,919 nothing. 8 00:00:24,560 --> 00:00:26,073 This old man came over to me. 9 00:00:26,120 --> 00:00:27,758 I looked in his eyes 10 00:00:27,800 --> 00:00:31,236 and... he was sort of amused, kind of friendly, 11 00:00:31,280 --> 00:00:34,431 the way my father looks at me when I've done something wrong. 12 00:00:34,480 --> 00:00:36,914 Still too early to talk about your father? 13 00:00:36,960 --> 00:00:39,872 When a person decides he's not in love with his spouse 14 00:00:39,920 --> 00:00:42,115 he shouldn't have to put off leaving home. 15 00:00:42,160 --> 00:00:44,310 Don't you think that's a little extreme? 16 00:00:44,360 --> 00:00:45,998 What's your name? 17 00:00:46,040 --> 00:00:47,359 Laura. 18 00:00:53,160 --> 00:00:54,388 Hey. 19 00:00:55,440 --> 00:00:58,079 This... is for you. 20 00:00:59,040 --> 00:01:00,439 What is it? 21 00:01:00,480 --> 00:01:02,914 An espresso machine. The Pasquini Livia. 22 00:01:02,960 --> 00:01:05,520 (Chuckles) Top of the line. 23 00:01:05,560 --> 00:01:07,710 For me? 24 00:01:07,760 --> 00:01:10,433 With a three-year warranty. 25 00:01:10,480 --> 00:01:14,029 Is this some kind of hint about the coffee you had here last week? 26 00:01:14,080 --> 00:01:17,152 No. No hint. It's a statement. 27 00:01:38,240 --> 00:01:40,231 Check this out. 28 00:01:44,680 --> 00:01:48,832 See, your coffee... was horrifying. 29 00:01:48,880 --> 00:01:50,871 I don't want to hurt your feelings, 30 00:01:50,920 --> 00:01:53,798 I won't tell you what your coffee says about you. 31 00:01:53,840 --> 00:01:57,310 - What does it say about me? - I may tell you later. 32 00:01:57,360 --> 00:02:01,239 - So, how do you like your coffee machine? - It's really nice. 33 00:02:01,280 --> 00:02:02,713 But I, um... 34 00:02:02,760 --> 00:02:05,479 I can't accept it, I'm... I'm sorry. 35 00:02:05,520 --> 00:02:07,750 What, are you a government employee? 36 00:02:07,800 --> 00:02:10,075 I got this for an amazing price in an auction. 37 00:02:10,120 --> 00:02:12,076 - In a what? - An auction. 38 00:02:12,120 --> 00:02:13,838 On the internet, eBay. 39 00:02:13,880 --> 00:02:16,440 I pick times when the country's glued to the television. 40 00:02:16,480 --> 00:02:18,516 Prices drop 70, 80%. 41 00:02:18,560 --> 00:02:21,472 Like... during the Super Bowl. 44 00:02:26,440 --> 00:02:28,237 Would've cost 4500 retail. 45 00:02:28,280 --> 00:02:32,068 Anyway, Thursday was the American Idol finale. 46 00:02:33,200 --> 00:02:34,599 And I thought of you. 47 00:02:34,640 --> 00:02:36,756 So I went online and grabbed this. 48 00:02:36,800 --> 00:02:38,995 Could you turn that off, Alex, please? 49 00:02:39,920 --> 00:02:41,433 What? 50 00:02:41,480 --> 00:02:44,552 Just switch it off. Please. 51 00:02:49,320 --> 00:02:51,629 What are you afraid of? What's the big deal? 52 00:02:51,680 --> 00:02:53,671 It's a coffee machine. 53 00:02:54,640 --> 00:02:59,077 (Sighs) Look, I think it's a really sweet gesture and I thank you... 54 00:02:59,120 --> 00:03:01,953 Don't you want to upgrade the standard of living here? 55 00:03:02,000 --> 00:03:05,231 I know you only drink tea, but what about your poor patients? 56 00:03:05,280 --> 00:03:09,068 Erm, no offence, but don't you feel there's something aggressive 57 00:03:09,120 --> 00:03:10,712 in what you're doing here? 58 00:03:10,760 --> 00:03:15,231 I mean, you haven't even asked me if it's something that I want, 59 00:03:15,280 --> 00:03:16,599 if it's OK with me. 60 00:03:20,960 --> 00:03:22,632 OK. 61 00:03:22,680 --> 00:03:24,557 OK, fine. 62 00:03:26,680 --> 00:03:28,511 It's just a stupid machine. Jeez. 63 00:03:28,560 --> 00:03:31,916 I'm just trying to understand what you wanted to say with this... 64 00:03:31,960 --> 00:03:33,791 Nothing. 65 00:03:33,840 --> 00:03:34,989 I... 66 00:03:35,040 --> 00:03:38,669 What do you think, then? By me bringing this to you that I'm... 67 00:03:38,720 --> 00:03:40,631 - trying to buy you? - I don't know. 68 00:03:40,680 --> 00:03:43,478 Why is it important for me to have a coffee machine? 69 00:03:43,520 --> 00:03:47,115 Maybe because the coffee that it makes is top-quality. 70 00:03:47,160 --> 00:03:49,879 I come here once a week, for the time being, 71 00:03:49,920 --> 00:03:52,388 and I need coffee here more than anywhere else 72 00:03:52,440 --> 00:03:54,476 to open up and all that crap. 73 00:03:54,520 --> 00:03:57,034 So, I brought the machine with me and... Oh, hey. 74 00:03:58,920 --> 00:04:02,515 Six different kinds of beans from the totally bitter - 75 00:04:02,560 --> 00:04:04,551 gourmet Guatemala - 76 00:04:04,600 --> 00:04:06,670 to the kind that postal pilots drink - 77 00:04:06,720 --> 00:04:10,110 jungle Java, which is sickeningly sweet. 78 00:04:13,160 --> 00:04:16,197 You know what, I got an idea. Deduct it from what I owe you. 79 00:04:16,240 --> 00:04:18,834 I don't think so. Sorry. 80 00:04:23,760 --> 00:04:26,638 Could you be mad at me for something else altogether? 81 00:04:26,680 --> 00:04:29,319 - Like what? - Because I met a patient of yours. 82 00:04:30,520 --> 00:04:33,080 - You met a patient of mine? - Yesterday. 83 00:04:33,120 --> 00:04:36,635 I got the days wrong and I accidentally met Laura. 84 00:04:41,440 --> 00:04:44,830 I gather it's a delicate situation when patients meet, yeah? 85 00:04:45,800 --> 00:04:47,950 What do you mean, "a delicate situation"? 86 00:04:48,000 --> 00:04:52,278 I don't know, I thought you therapists had some kind of ethical code. 87 00:04:52,320 --> 00:04:56,950 Like, I tell you intimate details about her, things she may not want her therapist to know. 88 00:04:57,000 --> 00:05:00,356 I leave, she tells you the same kind of information about me. 89 00:05:00,400 --> 00:05:03,233 Could that be considered a breach in your ethical code? 90 00:05:03,280 --> 00:05:06,317 I don't think there's any ethical problems, no. 91 00:05:06,360 --> 00:05:10,239 I'm not allowed to discuss other patients but you are free to talk about 92 00:05:10,280 --> 00:05:12,669 what's happening in your life and... 93 00:05:12,720 --> 00:05:15,473 what's happening between you and Laura, like... 94 00:05:15,520 --> 00:05:16,999 like anything else. 95 00:05:17,040 --> 00:05:19,759 But what's happening between me and Laura wouldn't have happened 96 00:05:19,800 --> 00:05:21,518 if we weren't patients of yours. 97 00:05:21,560 --> 00:05:23,278 I met her right out front here. 98 00:05:24,840 --> 00:05:28,515 That probably wouldn't have happened anywhere else on the planet. 99 00:05:28,560 --> 00:05:32,030 So you believe there's a kind of a unique significance to... 100 00:05:32,080 --> 00:05:34,036 the fact that you met a patient of mine? 101 00:05:34,080 --> 00:05:36,514 What do you think it is? 102 00:05:36,560 --> 00:05:38,596 I'm asking you. 103 00:05:41,640 --> 00:05:43,198 OK. 104 00:05:44,240 --> 00:05:46,356 I think we've started therapy, Alex. 105 00:05:47,640 --> 00:05:50,029 - What? - You brought me a coffee machine 106 00:05:50,080 --> 00:05:52,640 because you intend to come here more often 107 00:05:52,680 --> 00:05:54,796 and you want to feel at home. 108 00:05:54,840 --> 00:05:58,310 Through Laura, you're trying to relay that message to me, 109 00:05:58,360 --> 00:06:02,239 "She's your patient and I am too." 110 00:06:02,280 --> 00:06:06,273 So, we are officially in therapy. 111 00:06:09,080 --> 00:06:12,072 About the coffee machine, let's do this. Um... 112 00:06:14,000 --> 00:06:16,434 Let's just say it's here on loan. 113 00:06:16,480 --> 00:06:19,074 As long as I'm coming here, it's here. 114 00:06:19,120 --> 00:06:21,315 When it's over, I'll take it with me. 115 00:06:21,360 --> 00:06:22,952 Deal? 116 00:06:24,440 --> 00:06:27,318 OK. I guess so. 117 00:06:27,360 --> 00:06:31,194 I would like some... some time to think it over, though, but... 118 00:06:32,200 --> 00:06:33,599 it's OK. 119 00:06:33,640 --> 00:06:35,676 Hey, think positive. 120 00:06:37,160 --> 00:06:38,718 Hm. 121 00:06:41,160 --> 00:06:45,472 If I remember correctly, your wife doesn't allow you to drink coffee at home. 122 00:06:45,520 --> 00:06:46,669 That's correct. 123 00:06:46,720 --> 00:06:50,599 Do you feel that this is a place where you can say and do things 124 00:06:50,640 --> 00:06:53,757 that you might not be allowed to do at home? 125 00:06:53,800 --> 00:06:55,870 No, no, that issue's solved. 126 00:06:55,920 --> 00:06:57,638 Thanks to you. 127 00:06:59,360 --> 00:07:00,588 I left home. 128 00:07:01,640 --> 00:07:03,676 You really helped me with that. 129 00:07:03,720 --> 00:07:07,190 Showed me that leaving home was my own personal decision. 130 00:07:08,280 --> 00:07:11,716 Hey, Doc, I'm serious. You really did help me. 131 00:07:11,760 --> 00:07:15,150 I left here much more determined than when I arrived 132 00:07:15,200 --> 00:07:17,031 to carry out... 133 00:07:17,080 --> 00:07:18,991 this disengagement. 134 00:07:19,040 --> 00:07:22,237 I went straight home and told Michaela I wanted to leave home. 135 00:07:22,280 --> 00:07:26,831 And I said it in the same way I'd tell her I was going to take the car to the garage. 136 00:07:26,880 --> 00:07:30,316 And is that what you really felt? 137 00:07:30,360 --> 00:07:32,635 That it was so trivial? 138 00:07:33,680 --> 00:07:36,069 Yeah. That's what I felt. Absolutely. 139 00:07:36,120 --> 00:07:37,712 And here's how it happened. 140 00:07:37,760 --> 00:07:41,309 Michaela was making salmon - it's always salmon on Tuesdays - 141 00:07:41,360 --> 00:07:43,954 and I told her I wanted to leave home. 142 00:07:45,920 --> 00:07:49,913 Let me tell you, she didn't even turn her head away from the stove. 143 00:07:52,840 --> 00:07:55,274 She just said that, um... 144 00:07:55,320 --> 00:07:57,993 "I could have guessed this would happen." 145 00:07:58,760 --> 00:08:01,991 And, "You never surprise me, Alex, not even now." 146 00:08:02,040 --> 00:08:03,837 How did you feel about that? 147 00:08:03,880 --> 00:08:05,950 Were you... 148 00:08:06,000 --> 00:08:07,479 Were you hurt by that? 149 00:08:10,160 --> 00:08:12,355 She wasn't trying to hurt me. 150 00:08:13,520 --> 00:08:15,511 It's just the way she is and... 151 00:08:17,440 --> 00:08:20,671 I may have done her wrong here last week, the way I presented her. 152 00:08:20,720 --> 00:08:23,678 You got to understand, she's a super-intelligent woman. 153 00:08:23,720 --> 00:08:27,554 When she was 22, she was already working on her PhD at Georgetown, 154 00:08:27,600 --> 00:08:31,275 so if she says she was expecting it, then I got to believe 155 00:08:31,320 --> 00:08:33,470 she saw me going through something 156 00:08:33,520 --> 00:08:37,718 since the bombing and the heart attack and the suspension from the force. 157 00:08:39,160 --> 00:08:42,470 She saw much more than I was willing to show. 158 00:08:42,520 --> 00:08:45,398 And realised that it could result in us separating. 159 00:08:45,440 --> 00:08:50,753 Hmm. You know, what's interesting is that you're talking today about your wife like... 160 00:08:52,000 --> 00:08:54,912 she was some mythical superwoman 161 00:08:54,960 --> 00:08:58,316 that's able to anticipate everything ten steps in advance. 162 00:08:58,360 --> 00:09:01,158 As far as intelligence goes, absolutely. 163 00:09:01,200 --> 00:09:04,351 No matter what else you say about her, she's got the brains 164 00:09:04,400 --> 00:09:07,119 of a rocket scientist on the Manhattan Project. 165 00:09:07,160 --> 00:09:11,950 Still, wasn't there something in her reaction that disappointed you? 166 00:09:12,000 --> 00:09:16,039 I mean, you come home, you drop this bombshell and... 167 00:09:16,080 --> 00:09:17,911 she's indifferent to you. 168 00:09:19,640 --> 00:09:21,790 That isn't the case here. 169 00:09:21,840 --> 00:09:25,674 We're not one of those couples that creates drama all the time. 170 00:09:25,720 --> 00:09:28,154 We could have dragged this on for years, 171 00:09:28,200 --> 00:09:30,350 just for the sake of the kids, as they say. 172 00:09:30,400 --> 00:09:33,233 - Have you told the kids yet? - No. Not yet. 173 00:09:33,280 --> 00:09:36,989 No, Roy, my eldest, he's, uh, he's been locked up in his room for days, 174 00:09:37,040 --> 00:09:39,634 doing a chess championship on the internet. 175 00:09:39,680 --> 00:09:42,353 Noelle, my daughter, is on some kind of school trip. 176 00:09:42,400 --> 00:09:44,675 But you will have to tell them at some time. 177 00:09:44,720 --> 00:09:45,948 Of course. 178 00:09:47,160 --> 00:09:50,550 Some day, they'll have to accept the fact that their father... 179 00:09:50,600 --> 00:09:53,194 left home to look for a new life. 180 00:09:54,280 --> 00:09:58,159 - They can't understand that at their age. - How do you think they'll feel about that? 181 00:09:59,600 --> 00:10:01,830 Well... (Chuckles) 182 00:10:03,040 --> 00:10:05,634 Roy will understand me, for sure. 183 00:10:06,920 --> 00:10:09,593 He's a very special boy. He has, um... 184 00:10:10,480 --> 00:10:12,277 inner truth. 185 00:10:15,160 --> 00:10:16,354 You know... 186 00:10:17,400 --> 00:10:19,630 uh, Roy's 11 years old 187 00:10:19,680 --> 00:10:21,989 and he hardly ever leaves the house. 188 00:10:22,040 --> 00:10:24,508 He just sits at home and he sits by the computer 189 00:10:24,560 --> 00:10:27,154 and he plays chess and... 190 00:10:27,200 --> 00:10:29,634 He just... No girlfriends. 191 00:10:29,680 --> 00:10:31,910 No buddies, no basketball. 192 00:10:31,960 --> 00:10:35,396 At first it drove me crazy because he just seemed so miserable. 193 00:10:35,440 --> 00:10:37,112 So Ionely. 194 00:10:37,160 --> 00:10:38,878 Unpopular. 195 00:10:38,920 --> 00:10:42,833 I tried everything - I organised tours at the air force museum, 196 00:10:42,880 --> 00:10:46,759 for all the kids, they could come and sit in the cockpit of a real F-16 and... 197 00:10:46,800 --> 00:10:48,995 play with the simulators and... 198 00:10:50,080 --> 00:10:51,229 (Alex sighs) 199 00:10:51,280 --> 00:10:55,751 It was no use, I mean, in those tours he walked round all alone. 200 00:10:55,800 --> 00:10:58,917 Yeah. No one went near him, he was like some... 201 00:10:59,960 --> 00:11:03,999 I don't know, some ugly leper kid that all the kids were afraid to get next to. 202 00:11:07,440 --> 00:11:09,556 Kind of hard to see that, isn't it? 203 00:11:10,960 --> 00:11:12,359 Yeah. 204 00:11:12,880 --> 00:11:16,919 Sometimes it's harder for us as parents to see our kid Ionely 205 00:11:16,960 --> 00:11:19,190 than it is for the kid himself. 206 00:11:24,200 --> 00:11:26,794 It took me a long time to realise that. 207 00:11:29,720 --> 00:11:31,517 Until I realised that... 208 00:11:32,400 --> 00:11:34,197 he was happy. 209 00:11:34,800 --> 00:11:36,597 That I had the problem, 210 00:11:36,640 --> 00:11:40,553 that I couldn't accept the fact that he wasn't popular. 211 00:11:40,600 --> 00:11:43,910 That he's an outsider and that's OK, it's just his personality. 212 00:11:43,960 --> 00:11:46,633 I used to give him and Michaela such a hard time. 213 00:11:46,680 --> 00:11:48,955 I'd call the counsellor, the teachers, 214 00:11:49,000 --> 00:11:53,357 and everybody said, "There's no problem, the boy feels good about himself." 215 00:11:53,400 --> 00:11:55,391 It's just the way it is. 216 00:11:56,360 --> 00:11:58,112 Was that hard for you to accept? 217 00:11:58,160 --> 00:12:02,995 Yeah, but, you know, today... I'm jealous of him. 218 00:12:03,040 --> 00:12:05,952 Because he doesn't need anybody, he's got his own world. 219 00:12:06,000 --> 00:12:09,151 He's got his movies and books and computer games and chess, 220 00:12:09,200 --> 00:12:12,272 and the kid was born without a competitive bone in his body. 221 00:12:12,320 --> 00:12:14,834 Even the chess stuff, he doesn't care if he wins. 222 00:12:14,880 --> 00:12:18,156 He just likes the thinking it requires. 223 00:12:18,200 --> 00:12:21,749 A few years ago I organised this Ping-Pong tournament for his class 224 00:12:21,800 --> 00:12:23,153 in the back yard. 225 00:12:23,200 --> 00:12:26,112 He says to me, "Don't you feel sorry for these kids? 226 00:12:26,160 --> 00:12:28,879 "Only one will win, it's probably Robert. 227 00:12:28,920 --> 00:12:32,959 "And the rest will look pathetic in front of the girls. 228 00:12:33,000 --> 00:12:36,310 "Don't you feel sorry for them?" (Laughs) 229 00:12:36,360 --> 00:12:39,193 I swear, I don't know where he got those genes. 230 00:12:39,240 --> 00:12:41,356 Certainly not from me. 231 00:12:43,400 --> 00:12:47,279 You think he's too good to be connected to your genes? 232 00:12:47,320 --> 00:12:48,548 Are you making fun of me? 233 00:12:48,600 --> 00:12:51,797 I just want you to listen to what you're saying about yourself. 234 00:12:51,840 --> 00:12:54,229 This boy is your own flesh and blood. 235 00:12:54,280 --> 00:12:57,192 You love him, dearly. 236 00:12:57,240 --> 00:13:00,596 You're very proud of his beautiful qualities. 237 00:13:00,640 --> 00:13:05,236 And yet, you think, "Well, he's the exact opposite of me. 238 00:13:05,280 --> 00:13:08,397 "He couldn't possibly be connected to me." 239 00:13:09,840 --> 00:13:12,115 Please, let's not get into that again. No... 240 00:13:12,160 --> 00:13:14,469 This is completely a genetic issue. 241 00:13:14,520 --> 00:13:17,398 He got the female genes from Michaela and my mother. 242 00:13:17,440 --> 00:13:19,158 My mother was the same way, 243 00:13:19,200 --> 00:13:22,670 there was selflessness in everything she did, just like Michaela. 244 00:13:22,720 --> 00:13:26,076 She never felt like she was missing out on something. 245 00:13:26,120 --> 00:13:29,271 She didn't care if she was fulfilling herself and all that shit. 246 00:13:29,320 --> 00:13:33,199 There was just... There was something pure about her. 247 00:13:33,240 --> 00:13:37,233 Wholesome. Like Roy. No, he got that from her. 248 00:13:37,280 --> 00:13:40,716 So, the women in your family are... 249 00:13:40,760 --> 00:13:43,797 they're pure and wholesome, unblemished. 250 00:13:43,840 --> 00:13:46,479 And the men are somehow... 251 00:13:46,520 --> 00:13:50,752 the opposite - dirty, in conflict with themselves? 252 00:13:56,040 --> 00:13:57,519 (Chuckles) 253 00:13:57,560 --> 00:14:00,438 That's not a bad description of my father. 254 00:14:00,480 --> 00:14:05,554 Dirty as hell. He kept falling in love with different women at the office. 255 00:14:05,600 --> 00:14:09,673 He was having affairs like some kind of dirty dog, yes. 256 00:14:09,720 --> 00:14:12,518 The guy had it made, he had a woman at home who loved him, 257 00:14:12,560 --> 00:14:14,994 let him have his career, no questions asked. 258 00:14:15,040 --> 00:14:20,239 She took care of the kids and made sure that the entity called family existed. 259 00:14:21,280 --> 00:14:24,989 What you got to understand about my dad, he lived this whole life on this 260 00:14:25,040 --> 00:14:27,554 civil rights pioneer ticket. 261 00:14:27,600 --> 00:14:30,398 The guy who survived the Klan and marched with King. 262 00:14:30,440 --> 00:14:32,510 Who could say anything to him? 263 00:14:32,560 --> 00:14:34,391 He suffered for us all. 264 00:14:34,440 --> 00:14:35,953 Mm. 265 00:14:36,000 --> 00:14:38,719 And your mother wasn't... 266 00:14:38,760 --> 00:14:40,990 part of that movement? 267 00:14:41,040 --> 00:14:42,632 Not like him, not like my dad. 268 00:14:42,680 --> 00:14:45,353 She was from back east, from Delaware. 269 00:14:45,400 --> 00:14:48,073 Well-bred, she was the hope of the family. 270 00:14:48,120 --> 00:14:49,758 A pianist. 271 00:14:50,760 --> 00:14:53,354 She studied at the music academy. 272 00:14:55,200 --> 00:14:58,556 She was considered a virtuoso, she could play Liszt in her sleep. 273 00:14:58,600 --> 00:15:00,033 - You know Liszt? - Mm. 274 00:15:00,080 --> 00:15:01,479 Only Liszt could play Liszt. 275 00:15:05,160 --> 00:15:08,152 Yeah, she was really something, she was, um... 276 00:15:10,200 --> 00:15:11,394 rare. 277 00:15:14,200 --> 00:15:17,112 You never sensed any bitterness in her 278 00:15:17,160 --> 00:15:19,754 that the whole music thing... 279 00:15:19,800 --> 00:15:21,791 never materialised. 280 00:15:25,360 --> 00:15:27,157 You still miss her? 281 00:15:28,080 --> 00:15:29,877 Of course. 282 00:15:33,880 --> 00:15:35,677 She saved his life. 283 00:15:36,640 --> 00:15:40,030 By that I mean at the march on Washington, in '63. 284 00:15:40,800 --> 00:15:44,156 Right before King's big speech, Mahalia Jackson sang that song, 285 00:15:44,200 --> 00:15:46,794 I've Been 'Buked And I've Been Scorned. 286 00:15:48,400 --> 00:15:50,516 And they caught eyes in the crowd 287 00:15:50,560 --> 00:15:54,348 and they both had tears flowing down their faces... 288 00:15:55,520 --> 00:15:57,511 and they felt connected. 289 00:15:58,240 --> 00:16:01,516 My father was this Ionely, angry man 290 00:16:01,560 --> 00:16:03,676 and she... 291 00:16:03,720 --> 00:16:05,950 well, she melted him. 292 00:16:08,760 --> 00:16:11,354 She was the only person he ever trusted. 293 00:16:12,200 --> 00:16:15,033 He was at war with the rest of the world. 294 00:16:15,880 --> 00:16:18,269 And the war ain't over, believe me. 295 00:16:21,840 --> 00:16:25,071 Hmm. And still, he... 296 00:16:25,120 --> 00:16:27,953 - he cheated on her. - Constantly. 297 00:16:28,000 --> 00:16:30,036 The guy just wanted more and more. 298 00:16:30,080 --> 00:16:33,470 - All the time. - But... he didn't leave her? 299 00:16:33,520 --> 00:16:36,318 No. Are you crazy? Why would he? He loved her. 300 00:16:36,360 --> 00:16:38,032 You're sure about that? 301 00:16:39,040 --> 00:16:43,477 Are you sure that it wasn't just that he held her in very high esteem? 302 00:16:43,520 --> 00:16:47,718 And that he was really grateful for everything that she'd done for him 303 00:16:47,760 --> 00:16:49,273 throughout his life. 304 00:16:49,320 --> 00:16:53,313 If he didn't love her, he could have left. Why make her life miserable? 305 00:16:53,360 --> 00:16:54,793 OK, OK. 306 00:16:54,840 --> 00:16:57,354 And you, unlike him, 307 00:16:57,400 --> 00:17:00,198 you're trying to do the right thing? 308 00:17:00,240 --> 00:17:02,595 You're leaving home just like that? 309 00:17:02,640 --> 00:17:05,916 You're not dragging out things like he did. 310 00:17:07,480 --> 00:17:11,837 OK, all right, all right. I see you believe in the whole theory that 311 00:17:11,880 --> 00:17:16,112 children try to rectify what their parents did wrong. OK, OK. 312 00:17:16,160 --> 00:17:19,038 I don't know that it's about rectification. 313 00:17:20,080 --> 00:17:23,152 I think it's more what we call a pattern. 314 00:17:23,200 --> 00:17:27,113 We unconsciously repeat patterns that... 315 00:17:27,160 --> 00:17:29,230 we have witnessed in childhood. 316 00:17:29,280 --> 00:17:31,953 You said I was trying to rectify what my father did. 317 00:17:32,000 --> 00:17:35,993 I think you're presenting it that way but on a deeper level... 318 00:17:36,040 --> 00:17:38,600 I think there may be more similarity 319 00:17:38,640 --> 00:17:41,313 between you and your father's view of marriage. 320 00:17:42,280 --> 00:17:44,191 I don't know what you mean. 321 00:17:44,240 --> 00:17:45,434 Really? 322 00:17:45,480 --> 00:17:47,789 You can't see any way in which 323 00:17:47,840 --> 00:17:51,071 you and your father may have married the same kind of woman? 324 00:17:51,120 --> 00:17:55,238 It seems to me that you both married women whom you admire 325 00:17:55,280 --> 00:17:58,716 but that you don't necessarily love. 326 00:18:00,200 --> 00:18:03,078 That's some bullshit... You actually buy this shit? 327 00:18:03,120 --> 00:18:05,236 That I'm repeating my father's mistakes? 328 00:18:05,280 --> 00:18:07,236 Let me tell you something. 329 00:18:07,280 --> 00:18:10,192 What's going on in my marriage has got nothing to do with my father, 330 00:18:10,240 --> 00:18:11,798 so stop comparing us. 331 00:18:16,840 --> 00:18:19,308 Perhaps you might not have loved Michaela 332 00:18:19,360 --> 00:18:22,477 because you admired her so much for being so... 333 00:18:22,520 --> 00:18:23,509 so perfect. 334 00:18:23,560 --> 00:18:26,199 Why are we still talking about Michaela? 335 00:18:26,240 --> 00:18:28,435 That story is over. 336 00:18:28,480 --> 00:18:31,870 Because I'm not sure that your leaving her is really the solution 337 00:18:31,920 --> 00:18:34,559 to how you feel about yourself. 338 00:18:50,920 --> 00:18:53,309 I want to go back to Laura for a minute. 339 00:18:54,080 --> 00:18:56,355 Why is it so important to go back to Laura? 340 00:18:57,520 --> 00:19:01,399 Is it because she's my patient and you think it might bother me that you met? 341 00:19:01,440 --> 00:19:03,476 Whoa, whoa, I don't get this. 342 00:19:03,520 --> 00:19:05,397 Why can't I talk about her? 343 00:19:05,440 --> 00:19:08,238 What is the big deal about meeting her? 344 00:19:11,120 --> 00:19:14,112 (Sighs) Hey, Paul... 345 00:19:14,160 --> 00:19:16,879 you won't believe how much this cost. 346 00:19:16,920 --> 00:19:19,878 $450. I mean... (Laughs) 347 00:19:20,960 --> 00:19:24,999 That's crazy, right? Too bad they don't sell property on the online auctions. 348 00:19:25,040 --> 00:19:27,031 Now that Michaela has the house, 349 00:19:27,080 --> 00:19:29,913 during the Indy 500 I could go on, 350 00:19:29,960 --> 00:19:33,669 get a place in the same neighbourhood for almost half a million bucks. 351 00:19:33,720 --> 00:19:36,439 You... got the deal of your life here, Doc. 352 00:19:37,360 --> 00:19:41,114 Somebody who doesn't know about the whole TV factor would have paid 1500, 353 00:19:41,160 --> 00:19:45,438 so if I'm here for a year, that means you're renting it for eight bucks a week. 354 00:19:47,320 --> 00:19:50,471 Can we get back to our therapy session, Alex? 355 00:19:52,120 --> 00:19:54,031 Oh. 356 00:19:54,080 --> 00:19:56,913 OK, well, Laura couldn't get over it. 357 00:19:56,960 --> 00:19:59,235 I showed her the machine and she just... 358 00:19:59,280 --> 00:20:01,271 she couldn't believe it. 359 00:20:04,600 --> 00:20:06,875 Would you like to, er... 360 00:20:06,920 --> 00:20:10,230 Would you like to tell me how you two met? 361 00:20:10,280 --> 00:20:12,714 Sure, I lost track of time. 362 00:20:13,760 --> 00:20:16,911 I moved in with my gay friend, Daniel, and his little boyfriend. 363 00:20:16,960 --> 00:20:18,871 I told you about them, yeah? 364 00:20:18,920 --> 00:20:22,151 And they are real happy I left home. 365 00:20:22,200 --> 00:20:26,910 They bring their friends over to meet me and I'm the talk of the gay community. 366 00:20:26,960 --> 00:20:29,793 So, I'm going along with it - dinners, drinks. 367 00:20:29,840 --> 00:20:32,673 I even went to this gay club with them on Sunday. 368 00:20:32,720 --> 00:20:34,915 They told me there'd be some hot ladies, 369 00:20:34,960 --> 00:20:38,509 some that I could pick up, that aren't even lesbians, so... 370 00:20:38,560 --> 00:20:40,073 Didn't do anything for me. 371 00:20:40,120 --> 00:20:43,715 What it did was make me lose track of time, I was up all night. 372 00:20:43,760 --> 00:20:46,877 So, I could've sworn yesterday was Tuesday. 373 00:20:46,920 --> 00:20:50,390 So, I came here, but when I got here I saw Laura leaving. 374 00:20:50,440 --> 00:20:53,000 I walked up to her and I asked if everything was OK. 375 00:20:53,040 --> 00:20:56,316 She said everything wasn't OK, that she ran over a dog - 376 00:20:56,360 --> 00:20:59,113 or almost ran over this dog, yesterday morning. 377 00:20:59,160 --> 00:21:01,151 The way she described it, it sounded like this... 378 00:21:01,200 --> 00:21:05,557 the Airedale terrier pedigree - the Airedale terrier is the only dog in history 379 00:21:05,600 --> 00:21:07,989 to be knighted by the King of England for bravery in battle. 380 00:21:08,040 --> 00:21:09,632 - (Beeping) - Did you know that? 381 00:21:09,680 --> 00:21:11,591 I didn't know that, no. 382 00:21:11,640 --> 00:21:15,076 Yeah, well, it did. It's an amazing story. This dog... 383 00:21:17,280 --> 00:21:19,271 OK, well, maybe next time. 384 00:21:21,640 --> 00:21:26,760 So, I asked her, if she had been leaving a session... 385 00:21:26,800 --> 00:21:28,392 with you. 386 00:21:28,440 --> 00:21:32,797 She was a bit taken aback, like I had caught her in something shameful. 387 00:21:32,840 --> 00:21:37,277 Hell, I thought only navy pilots felt that way about seeing a shrink. 388 00:21:37,320 --> 00:21:40,551 Mmm. Ah. 389 00:21:40,600 --> 00:21:42,113 Yeah. 390 00:21:42,160 --> 00:21:44,515 I admitted to her that I was seeing you also 391 00:21:44,560 --> 00:21:46,630 and I realised that I was here a day early. 392 00:21:46,680 --> 00:21:49,513 She thought that was just hilarious, 393 00:21:49,560 --> 00:21:51,949 that someone could get the days mixed up. 394 00:21:52,000 --> 00:21:53,797 And she's got this... 395 00:21:53,840 --> 00:21:56,798 She's got this way of looking at you. 396 00:21:56,840 --> 00:22:00,355 You know, it's like there's something fierce about this girl. 397 00:22:00,400 --> 00:22:03,472 - Right? - What do you mean? 398 00:22:03,520 --> 00:22:06,557 I don't know, she's got this look. It's like... 399 00:22:06,600 --> 00:22:09,194 It's like she's used to getting her own way. 400 00:22:09,240 --> 00:22:11,276 And you know what she said? (Laughs) 401 00:22:11,320 --> 00:22:14,915 She said that you could ruin even a cup of Lipton tea. 402 00:22:14,960 --> 00:22:16,473 (Laughs) 403 00:22:16,520 --> 00:22:18,715 - (Chuckles) - (Alex) I mean, come on. 404 00:22:18,760 --> 00:22:20,159 Mm. 405 00:22:21,520 --> 00:22:23,590 So, I guess you're both in the same, er... 406 00:22:23,640 --> 00:22:27,758 - in the same boat, so to speak. - Totally. (Laughs) 407 00:22:27,800 --> 00:22:31,236 Anyway, so we got in my car and we drove to the accident site. 408 00:22:31,280 --> 00:22:34,192 Naturally there was no dog there, so we grabbed a coffee 409 00:22:34,240 --> 00:22:37,073 and I sketched the area on a napkin. 410 00:22:37,120 --> 00:22:38,633 At her place? 411 00:22:38,680 --> 00:22:41,797 No, no, why would you say that? Some café. 412 00:22:42,480 --> 00:22:45,313 So I drew her an overhead view of the area. 413 00:22:45,360 --> 00:22:48,397 I'm a genius at that - yards and the green areas - 414 00:22:48,440 --> 00:22:50,431 anywhere where a dog might disappear. 415 00:22:50,480 --> 00:22:53,313 Sounds like a real military operation. 416 00:22:53,360 --> 00:22:54,952 Yeah. 417 00:22:56,680 --> 00:22:58,272 Yeah. 418 00:23:00,360 --> 00:23:02,237 To be honest, I kind of miss that. 419 00:23:02,280 --> 00:23:05,033 Just... being up in the air... 420 00:23:05,080 --> 00:23:10,552 reducing the area on a map, looking for a man intelligence has been after for three months. 421 00:23:10,600 --> 00:23:12,477 So, did you find the dog? 422 00:23:12,520 --> 00:23:15,717 No, no. It probably went and died somewhere. 423 00:23:16,720 --> 00:23:19,871 But you could say it still had a happy ending. 424 00:23:24,080 --> 00:23:26,275 Hey, is our... is our time almost done? 425 00:23:27,920 --> 00:23:31,230 Um... (Clears throat) No, we have about five minutes left. 426 00:23:31,280 --> 00:23:33,032 (Beeping) 427 00:23:33,080 --> 00:23:37,756 Oh, man. Sorry. I thought this thing was off. 428 00:23:38,560 --> 00:23:39,879 Ah. (Chuckles) 429 00:23:39,920 --> 00:23:43,390 Speak of the devil. I'm supposed to meet Laura, mind if I take this? 430 00:23:43,440 --> 00:23:45,431 Sure. Go ahead. 431 00:23:46,520 --> 00:23:48,511 Hey, what's up? 432 00:23:49,320 --> 00:23:50,958 No, no, not yet. 433 00:23:51,000 --> 00:23:56,154 But judging from Paul's face, I think he'll kick me out of here in a minute or two. 434 00:23:56,200 --> 00:23:57,792 (Alex chuckles) 435 00:23:59,040 --> 00:24:01,395 (Laughs) I know, right. 436 00:24:01,440 --> 00:24:04,273 OK. Yeah, all right. Bye. 437 00:24:07,760 --> 00:24:09,751 So, what do you think? 438 00:24:09,800 --> 00:24:12,189 Should I go for her? Laura. 439 00:24:13,240 --> 00:24:15,834 Oh, come on, Paul. 440 00:24:15,880 --> 00:24:19,111 Come on, you can tell me. I know it's not ethical, but... 441 00:24:19,160 --> 00:24:20,513 you're my shrink too. 442 00:24:21,360 --> 00:24:24,557 She's the first woman I've been out with in 15 years. 443 00:24:24,600 --> 00:24:26,875 I don't want to have a lousy experience. 444 00:24:26,920 --> 00:24:29,514 I'm sorry, I can't give you that kind of advice. 445 00:24:31,720 --> 00:24:33,870 But she's the kind of woman who... 446 00:24:33,920 --> 00:24:36,912 - could drive a man insane, am I right? - Alex, I... 447 00:24:36,960 --> 00:24:39,269 Paul, man to man, just give me a little tip. 448 00:24:39,320 --> 00:24:42,710 - I can't do that. - This could affect my whole life. 449 00:24:43,840 --> 00:24:45,717 I can't give you dating tips, Alex. 450 00:24:46,520 --> 00:24:47,714 Sorry. 451 00:24:48,560 --> 00:24:50,835 Just... stop it. 452 00:24:53,600 --> 00:24:55,192 OK. 453 00:24:57,520 --> 00:25:00,990 That's all right, because I'm used to you not giving me advice. 454 00:25:04,160 --> 00:25:07,311 But, you know, you always help out in the end. 455 00:25:07,360 --> 00:25:10,750 In your crazy, roundabout kind of way. 456 00:25:15,560 --> 00:25:19,075 (Sighs) Oh, and when she's here for her session, 457 00:25:19,120 --> 00:25:21,429 try to pull the espresso handle fast... 458 00:25:22,480 --> 00:25:25,074 because she likes it with a lot of foam. 459 00:26:53,640 --> 00:26:54,629 English SDH