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Previously on In Treatment...
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Let's just cut to the chase, okay?
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Saturday morning,
I'm standing near the bomb site.
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It was like London
after the Blitz, just rubble.
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And all because of what I did.
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I knew this shoud have been
the trauma of my life but I felt...
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Nothing!
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This old man came over to me.
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And I looked in his eyes...
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And he was sort of amused,
kind of friendly.
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Like my father looks at me when
he thinks I've done something wrong.
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You still think it's too early
to talk about your father?
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When a person decides
he's not in love with his spouse,
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he shouldn't have to put off
leaving home. Isn't that so?
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Don't you think that's a little extreme?
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What's your name?
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This is for you.
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What is it?
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An expression machine.
The Pasquini Livia.
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Top of the line.
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For me?
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With a three-year warranty.
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Is this some kind of hint about
the coffee you had here last week?
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No hint.
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It's a statement.
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Synced & corrected by
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Check this out.
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Your coffee...
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was horrifying.
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I don't want to hurt your feelings.
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I won't tell you the truth about your
coffee and what it says about you.
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- What does it say about me?
- I may tell you later.
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- How do you like your coffee machine?
- It's, uh, really nice.
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But I, um... I can't accept it.
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I'm... I'm sorry.
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What, are you a government employee?
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hey, I got this for an amazing price
in an auction.
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- In a what?
- An auction.
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On the internet... Ebay.
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I pick the times when the whole
country's glued to the television.
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Prices drop 70%, 80%. Like...
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eight speakers and a receiver
for only $1,000.
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Would've cost $4,500 retail.
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Anyway, thursday...
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was the American Idol finale...
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And I thought of you.
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So I went online and grabbed this.
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Could you turn that off, please?
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What?
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Just switch it off, please.
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What are you afraid of?
What's the big deal?
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It's a coffee machine.
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Look, I think it's a really
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sweet gesture, and I... I thank you.
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Don't you want to upgrade
the standard of living around here?
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And I know you only drink tea,
but what about your poor patients?
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Um, no offense, but...
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don't you feel there's something
aggressive in what you're doing here?
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I mean,
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you haven't even asked me
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if it's something that I want,
if it's okay with me.
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Okay, fine.
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It's just a stupid machine. Jeez.
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I'm just trying to understand
what you wanted to say with this.
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Nothing.
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What do you think? That by
me bringing this to you that I'm,
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- what, trying to buy you?
- I don't know.
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Why is it important for me
to have a coffee machine?
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Maybe because the coffee
that it makes is top quality.
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I come here once a week
for the time being
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and I need coffee here
more than anywhere else
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to open up and all that crap.
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So I brought the machine
with me and...
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Six different kinds of beans
from the...
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totally bitter gourmet Guatemala...
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To the kind that postal pilots drink...
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Jungle java,
which is sickeningly sweet.
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You know what? I've got an idea:
deduct it from what I owe you.
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I don't think so.
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Sorry.
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Could you be mad at me
for something else altogether?
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- Like what?
- Because I met a patient of yours.
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- You met a patient of mine?
- Yesterday.
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I got the days wrong
and I accidentally met Laura.
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I gather it's a delicate situation
when patients meet, yeah?
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What do you mean
"a delicate situation"?
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Well, I don't know. I thought
you therapists had some kind of...
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ethical code.
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Like I tell you intimate
details about her...
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Things she may not want
her therapist to know about her.
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I leave, she walks in and tells you
the same kind of information about me.
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Could that be considered a breach
in your ethical code?
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I don't think
there's any ethical problems, no.
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Of course I'm not allowed
to discuss other patients,
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but you are free to talk about
what's happening in your life and...
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What's happening
between you and Laura like...
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Like anything else.
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Okay, but... what's happening
between me and Laura
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wouldn't have happened
if we weren't patients of yours.
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I met her right out front here.
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That probably wouldn't have happened
anywhere else on the planet.
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So you believe there's kind of
a unique significance to...
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the fact that you met a patient of mine?
What do you think it is?
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I'm asking you.
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I think we've started therapy, Alex.
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- What?
- You brought me a coffee machine
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because you intend
to come here more often
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and you want to feel at home.
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Through Laura, you're trying
to relate that message to me.
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"She's your patient and I am too."
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So we are...
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officially in therapy.
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About the coffee machine,
let's do this...
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Let's just say it's here on loan.
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As long as I keep coming here,
it's here.
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When it's over, I'll take it with me.
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Deal?
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Okay. I guess, um...
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I... I would like some...
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Some time to think it over,
though, but it's okay.
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Hey
Think positive.
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If I remember correctly, your wife
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doesn't allow you
to drink coffee at home.
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- That's correct.
- Do you feel
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that this is a place
where you can say and do things
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that you might not be allowed
to do at home?
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No, that issue's solved.
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Thanks to you.
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I left home.
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You really helped me with that
in our last session,
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Showed me that leaving home
was my own personal decision.
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Hey, doc, I'm serious.
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You really did help me.
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I left here much more determined
than when I arrived...
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to carry out this disengagement.
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I went straight home and told Michaela
I wanted to leave home.
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And I said it in the same way
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I'd tell her I was going to take
the car to the garage.
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And is that what you really felt,
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that it was
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so trivial?
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Yeah, that's what I felt. Absolutely.
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And here's how it happened.
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Michaela was making salmon...
It's always salmon on tuesdays...
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And I told her I wanted to leave home.
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Let me tell you, she didn't even turn
her head away from the stove.
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She just said that...
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"I could've guessed this would happen.
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"And you never surprise me, Alex.
Not even now."
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How did you feel about that?
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Were you...
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Were you... hurt by that?
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She wasn't trying to hurt me.
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It's just the way she is and...
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I may have done her wrong last week,
the way I presented her.
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But you've gotta understand,
she's a superintelligent woman.
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When she was 22, she was already
working on her PHD at Georgetown,
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so if she says she was expecting it,
then I've gotta believe...
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she saw me going through something
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since the bombing
and the heart attack
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and the suspension from the force.
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She saw much more than
I was willing to show.
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And realized
that it could result in us separating.
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You know what's interesting
is that you're talking today
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about your wife like...
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You know, she was some mythical
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superwoman that's able to anticipate
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everything 10 steps in advance.
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As far as intelligence goes, absolutely.
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Really, no matter what else you say
about her, she's got the brains
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of a rocket scientist
on the Manhattan project.
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Still, wasn't there something
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in her reaction that disappointed you?
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I mean, you come home,
you drop this bombshell and...
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she's indifferent to you.
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Yeah, but that isn't the case here.
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We're not one of those couples
that creates drama all the time.
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On the contrary,
we could've dragged this on for years
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just for the sake of the kids,
as they say.
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- Have you told the kids yet?
- No, not yet.
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Now Roy, my eldest, he's been
locked up in his room for days
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doing some kind of chess
championship on the internet.
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And Noelle, my daughter,
she's on some kind of school trip.
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But you will have to tell them
at some time.
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Of course.
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Someday they'll have to accept
the fact that their father
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left home to look for a new life.
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They can't understand that at their age.
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How do you think
they'll feel about that?
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Roy will understand me.
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For sure.
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He's a very special boy.
he has...
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inner truth.
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You know...
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Roy's 11 years old.
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And he hardly ever leaves the house.
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He just sits at home
and he sits by the computer
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and plays chess and...
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I mean, he just...
No girlfriends,
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no buddies, no basketball.
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And at first it drove me crazy,
'cause he just seemed so miserable,
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so lonely,
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unpopular.
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I tried everything. I...
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I organized tours at the air force
museum for all the kids.
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They could come and sit
in the cockpit of a real F-16,
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play with the simulators and...
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It was no use. I mean, those tours,
he'd walk around all alone.
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The only one near him was like some...
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I don't know, some ugly leper kid
all the kids were afraid to get next to.
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It's kind of hard to see that, isn't it?
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Sometimes it's harder for us
as parents to see our kid lonely
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than it is for the kid himself.
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It took me a long time to realize that.
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Then I realized that...
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he was happy.
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That I had the problem.
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That I...
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I couldn't accept the fact
that he wasn't popular.
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That he's an outsider, and that's okay.
It's just his personality.
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I used to give him and michaela
such a hard time.
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I'd call the counselor,
I'd call the teachers,
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and everybody said,
"There's no problem.
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"The boy feels good about himself.
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"It's just the way it is."
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Was it hard for you to accept?
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Yeah, but, you know, today...
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I'm jealous of him,
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Cause he doesn't need anybody.
He's got his own world.
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He's got his movies and books
and computer games
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and chess. And the kid was born
without a competitive bone in his body.
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Even the chess stuff,
it's not about winning.
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He doesn't care if he wins.
He just likes the thinking it requires.
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A few years ago I tried to organize
this ping-pong tournament
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for his... for his class
in the backyard.
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He turns to me and he says, "Dad,
don't you feel sorry for these kids?
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"Only one will win,
and it's probably Robert.
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"And the rest will look pathetic
in front of the girls.
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"Don't you feel sorry for them?"
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I swear, I don't know
where he got those genes.
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Certainly not from me.
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You think he's too good
to be connected to your genes?
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- Are you making fun of me?
- I want you to listen
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to what you're saying about yourself.
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This boy is your own flesh and blood.
You... you love him.
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Dearly.
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You're very proud
of his beautiful qualities
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and yet you think,
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"Well, he's the exact opposite of me.
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"He couldn't possibly
be connected to me."
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Please,
let's not get into that again. No.
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This is completely a genetic issue.
Look, he got
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the female genes
from Michaela and my mother.
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My mother, she was the same way.
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There was selflessness in everything
she did, just like Michaela.
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She never felt like she was missing out
on something somewhere else.
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She didn't care if she was fulfilling
herself and all that shit.
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There was...
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There was something pure about her,
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wholesome... like Roy.
No, he got that from her.
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So the women in your family are...
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they're pure and wholesome,
unblemished.
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And that the men are somehow
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the opposite... dirty,
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in conflict with themselves.
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That's not a bad description
of my father...
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Dirty as hell.
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He kept falling in love
with different women at the office.
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He was having affairs
like some kind of dirty dog, yes.
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And the guy had it made.
He had a woman at home who loved him,
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let him have his career,
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no questions asked.
She took care of the kids
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and made sure that
the entity called "family" existed.
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What you've got to understand about
my dad, he lived this whole life on this
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civil-rights-pioneer ticket.
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You know, a guy who survived
the Klan and marched with King.
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Who could say anything to him?
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He suffered for us all.
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And you mother wasn't...
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part of that movement?
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I like him. I like my dad.
She was from back east,
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from Delaware. Well-bred.
She was the hope of the family.
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A pianist.
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She studied at the Music Academy.
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She was considered a virtuoso.
She could play Liszt in her sleep.
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You know Liszt?
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Only Liszt could play Liszt.
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Yeah, she was really something.
She was, um...
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Rare.
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You never sensed any bitterness
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in her that the whole music thing...
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never materialized.
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You still miss her?
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Of course.
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She saved his life.
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By that I mean at...
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At the march on Washington...
In '63.
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Right before King's big speech,
Mahalia Mackson sang that song
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I been 'buked and I been scorned.
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And they caught eyes
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in the crowd, and...
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They both had tears
flowing down their faces.
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And they felt connected.
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My father was this lonely angry man,
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and she...
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Well, she melted him.
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She was the only person
he ever trusted.
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He was at war
with the rest of the world.
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And the war ain't over, believe me.
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And still he...
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He cheated on her.
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Constantly.
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The guy just wanted more and more.
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All the time.
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But he didn't leave her?
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No, what are you crazy?
Why would he leave her? He loved her.
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You're sure about that?
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Are you sure that...
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00:17:21,500 --> 00:17:24,800
it wasn't just that he held her
in very high esteem and that...
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he was really grateful
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00:17:27,540 --> 00:17:30,160
for everything that she'd done for him
throughout his life?
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Are you trying to justify him?
He could've left her.
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Why make her life miserable?
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And you, unlike him,
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you're trying to do the right thing?
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00:17:41,660 --> 00:17:43,620
You're leaving home just like that.
329
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You're not dragging out
things like he did.
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Okay. All right, all right.
331
00:17:51,280 --> 00:17:53,430
I see you believe
in the whole theory that
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children try to rectify
what their parents did wrong.
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00:17:56,510 --> 00:17:58,030
All right. Okay.
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00:17:58,280 --> 00:18:01,110
I don't know
that it's about rectification.
335
00:18:02,390 --> 00:18:04,930
I think it's more
what we call a pattern.
336
00:18:05,660 --> 00:18:09,150
We unconsciously repeat patterns that...
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00:18:09,720 --> 00:18:11,840
we have witnessed in childhood.
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00:18:12,000 --> 00:18:14,240
But you said I was trying
to rectify what my father did.
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00:18:14,400 --> 00:18:18,170
I think you're presenting it that way,
but on a deeper level...
340
00:18:19,040 --> 00:18:21,640
I think there may be more similarity
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00:18:21,800 --> 00:18:24,430
between you and your father's
view of marriage.
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00:18:25,530 --> 00:18:27,080
I don't know what you mean.
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00:18:27,610 --> 00:18:28,750
Really?
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00:18:28,930 --> 00:18:31,140
You can't see any way in which
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you and your father may have married
the same kind of woman?
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00:18:34,790 --> 00:18:37,010
It seems to me
that you both married women
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00:18:37,190 --> 00:18:39,650
whom you admire, but...
348
00:18:40,610 --> 00:18:42,590
But you don't necessarily love.
349
00:18:44,210 --> 00:18:47,130
That's some bullshit.
You actually buy this shit?
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00:18:47,320 --> 00:18:49,410
That I'm repeating my father's mistakes?
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00:18:49,840 --> 00:18:51,420
Let me tell you something:
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00:18:51,630 --> 00:18:54,580
what's going on in my marriage
has got nothing to do with my father,
353
00:18:54,770 --> 00:18:56,230
so stop comparing us.
354
00:19:01,560 --> 00:19:04,920
Perhaps you might not
have loved Michaela because
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00:19:05,090 --> 00:19:08,410
you admired her so much
for being so perfect.
356
00:19:08,610 --> 00:19:11,110
Wait. Why are we still
talking about Michaela?
357
00:19:11,460 --> 00:19:12,870
That story is over.
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00:19:14,010 --> 00:19:17,170
Because I'm not sure that your
leaving her is really the solution
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00:19:17,360 --> 00:19:19,160
to how you feel about yourself.
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00:19:37,230 --> 00:19:39,190
I wanna go back to Laura for a minute.
361
00:19:40,470 --> 00:19:42,790
Why is it so important
to go back to Laura?
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00:19:43,970 --> 00:19:46,010
Is it because
she's my patient and you think
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00:19:46,190 --> 00:19:47,930
it might bother me that you met?
364
00:19:48,260 --> 00:19:49,720
Wow wow
I don't get this.
365
00:19:50,270 --> 00:19:51,770
Why can't I talk about her?
366
00:19:52,200 --> 00:19:53,990
What is the big deal about meeting her?
367
00:19:59,020 --> 00:20:03,840
Hey Paul ...
You won't believe how much this cost.
368
00:20:04,460 --> 00:20:07,410
$450. I mean...
369
00:20:08,620 --> 00:20:10,060
That's crazy, right?
370
00:20:10,360 --> 00:20:12,650
Too bad they don't sell property
on the online auctions.
371
00:20:12,810 --> 00:20:14,710
I mean,
now that Michaela has the house,
372
00:20:14,900 --> 00:20:17,730
during the Indy 500 or something,
I could go on
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00:20:17,890 --> 00:20:20,910
get a place in the same neighborhood
for almost half a million bucks.
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00:20:21,690 --> 00:20:24,590
You got the deal of your life here, doc.
375
00:20:26,020 --> 00:20:28,110
Someone who doesn't know
about the whole tv factor
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00:20:28,270 --> 00:20:30,890
would've paid $1,500 for it, minimum.
so if I'm here for a year,
377
00:20:31,050 --> 00:20:33,980
then that means
you're renting it for... $8 a week.
378
00:20:36,010 --> 00:20:38,220
Could we get back
to our therapy session, Alex?
379
00:20:41,130 --> 00:20:45,550
Oh,
Okay. Well, Laura couldn't get over it.
380
00:20:46,510 --> 00:20:48,400
I showed her the machine and she just...
381
00:20:48,580 --> 00:20:49,890
she couldn't believe it.
382
00:20:53,700 --> 00:20:55,490
Would you like to...
383
00:20:56,420 --> 00:20:59,550
Would you like to tell me
how you two met?
384
00:20:59,920 --> 00:21:00,920
Sure.
385
00:21:01,110 --> 00:21:02,400
I lost track of time.
386
00:21:03,590 --> 00:21:05,830
I moved in with my gay friend Daniel
387
00:21:05,990 --> 00:21:08,480
and his little boyfriend.
I told you about them.
388
00:21:09,010 --> 00:21:12,160
And they are real happy I left home.
389
00:21:12,390 --> 00:21:15,170
They bring their friends over to meet me
and they've turned me
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00:21:15,360 --> 00:21:17,210
into the talk of the gay community.
391
00:21:17,370 --> 00:21:20,160
So I've been going along with it.
you know, I go to dinners, drinks.
392
00:21:20,320 --> 00:21:23,110
I even went to this gay club
with them on sunday.
393
00:21:23,350 --> 00:21:25,410
They told me
there'd be some hot ladies there,
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00:21:25,570 --> 00:21:28,080
somebody I could pick up
that aren't even lesbians.
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00:21:28,750 --> 00:21:30,580
And it didn't do anything for me.
396
00:21:31,090 --> 00:21:33,170
What it did was make me
lose track of time.
397
00:21:33,350 --> 00:21:34,730
I was up all night long,
398
00:21:34,930 --> 00:21:37,970
so I could've sworn
yesterday was tuesday,
399
00:21:38,150 --> 00:21:40,990
so I came here. but when
I got here I saw Laura leaving.
400
00:21:41,780 --> 00:21:44,300
I walked up to her and I asked her
if everything was okay.
401
00:21:44,500 --> 00:21:46,230
She said everything wasn't okay,
402
00:21:46,410 --> 00:21:49,920
that she ran over a dog, or almost
ran over this dog yesterday morning.
403
00:21:50,480 --> 00:21:52,920
The way she described it,
it sounded like this...
404
00:21:53,400 --> 00:21:55,140
the airedale terrier pedigree.
405
00:21:55,300 --> 00:21:57,630
The airedale terrier
is the only dog in history
406
00:21:57,790 --> 00:22:01,010
to be knighted by the king of England
for bravery in battle.
407
00:22:01,290 --> 00:22:03,650
- Did you know that?
- I didn't know that, no.
408
00:22:03,940 --> 00:22:05,900
Yeah well, it did.
It's an amazing story.
409
00:22:06,060 --> 00:22:07,430
I mean, this dog...
410
00:22:09,750 --> 00:22:11,650
Okay, well, maybe next time.
411
00:22:14,410 --> 00:22:19,500
So ..., I asked her
if she had been leaving a session
412
00:22:19,690 --> 00:22:20,850
with you.
413
00:22:21,400 --> 00:22:24,800
And she was a bit taken aback like
I had caught her in something shameful.
414
00:22:25,820 --> 00:22:28,950
Hell, I thought only Navy pilots felt
that way about seeing a shrink.
415
00:22:35,620 --> 00:22:38,140
Anyway, I admitted to her
that I was seeing you also.
416
00:22:38,490 --> 00:22:40,360
And I realized that
I was here a day early.
417
00:22:40,520 --> 00:22:43,030
She thought that was just hilarious.
418
00:22:43,380 --> 00:22:45,280
That someone
could get the days mixed up.
419
00:22:46,000 --> 00:22:47,420
And she's got this...
420
00:22:47,960 --> 00:22:50,330
I don't know,
she's got this way of looking at you.
421
00:22:51,070 --> 00:22:54,650
It's like this girl, she's got...
There's something fierce about her.
422
00:22:55,060 --> 00:22:56,060
Right?
423
00:22:56,470 --> 00:22:57,680
What do you mean?
424
00:22:58,090 --> 00:23:00,330
I don't know.
She's got this look. It's like...
425
00:23:01,250 --> 00:23:03,870
It's like she's used
to getting her own way.
426
00:23:04,170 --> 00:23:05,920
And you know what she said?
427
00:23:06,190 --> 00:23:07,590
She said that you
428
00:23:07,760 --> 00:23:10,060
could ruin even a cup of Lipton tea.
429
00:23:12,740 --> 00:23:14,030
I mean, come on.
430
00:23:16,810 --> 00:23:20,460
So I guess you're both in the same...
In the same boat, so to speak.
431
00:23:20,640 --> 00:23:21,790
Totally.
432
00:23:23,290 --> 00:23:25,530
Anyway, so we got in my car and we...
433
00:23:25,700 --> 00:23:28,490
drove to the accident site.
naturally, there wasn't any dog there,
434
00:23:28,650 --> 00:23:30,900
so we grabbed a cup of coffee and I...
435
00:23:31,070 --> 00:23:32,950
sketched the area on a napkin.
436
00:23:33,120 --> 00:23:34,370
At her place?
437
00:23:35,100 --> 00:23:37,870
No, why would you say that?
No, some cafe.
438
00:23:38,700 --> 00:23:41,400
So I drew her an overhead
view of the area.
439
00:23:41,690 --> 00:23:44,710
I'm a genius at that, you know,
the yards and the green areas...
440
00:23:44,880 --> 00:23:47,010
anywhere where a dog
might make himself disappear.
441
00:23:47,170 --> 00:23:49,860
Sounds like a real military operation.
442
00:23:57,330 --> 00:23:59,090
To be honest, I kind of miss that,
443
00:23:59,250 --> 00:24:01,820
just being up in the air,
444
00:24:02,250 --> 00:24:04,010
reducing the area on a map,
445
00:24:05,030 --> 00:24:07,830
looking for a man intelligence
has been after for 3 months.
446
00:24:08,250 --> 00:24:09,820
So did you find the dog?
447
00:24:09,980 --> 00:24:12,640
No, it probably went and died
somewhere.
448
00:24:14,380 --> 00:24:16,930
But you could say
it still had a happy ending.
449
00:24:22,010 --> 00:24:24,230
Hey, is...
Is our time almost up?
450
00:24:26,630 --> 00:24:29,410
No, we have about...
We have about five minutes.
451
00:24:32,490 --> 00:24:35,050
Oh, sorry.
I thought this thing was off.
452
00:24:38,300 --> 00:24:39,390
Speak of the devil.
453
00:24:39,550 --> 00:24:42,120
I'm supposed to meet Laura.
Do you mind if I take this?
454
00:24:42,350 --> 00:24:43,650
Sure, go ahead.
455
00:24:45,380 --> 00:24:46,710
Yeah, hey. What's up?
456
00:24:48,380 --> 00:24:50,760
No, not yet, but...
457
00:24:52,290 --> 00:24:55,400
But judging from paul's face, he'll kick
me out of here in a minute or 2.
458
00:24:59,250 --> 00:25:00,570
I know. Right.
459
00:25:02,230 --> 00:25:03,870
Yeah, all right. Bye.
460
00:25:07,670 --> 00:25:09,110
So what do you think?
461
00:25:09,690 --> 00:25:11,720
Should I go for her? Laura?
462
00:25:13,360 --> 00:25:14,610
Oh, co... Paul.
463
00:25:16,090 --> 00:25:18,950
Come on, you can tell me.
I know it's not ethical, but...
464
00:25:19,470 --> 00:25:20,790
you're my shrink too.
465
00:25:25,580 --> 00:25:27,370
I don't want to have a lousy experience.
466
00:25:27,530 --> 00:25:30,190
I'm sorry, I can't give you
that kind of advice, Alex.
467
00:25:32,610 --> 00:25:34,720
But she's...
she's the kind of woman that,
468
00:25:34,910 --> 00:25:37,530
you know, could drive a man insane.
am I right?
469
00:25:38,300 --> 00:25:40,350
Paul. just man to man.
Give me a little tip.
470
00:25:40,550 --> 00:25:43,360
- I can't do that.
- This could affect my whole life.
471
00:25:45,210 --> 00:25:47,080
I can't give you dating tips, Alex.
472
00:25:48,030 --> 00:25:49,150
Sorry.
473
00:25:50,140 --> 00:25:51,550
Just stop it.
474
00:25:59,450 --> 00:26:02,820
That's all right, 'cause I'm used
to you not giving me advice anyway.
475
00:26:06,500 --> 00:26:09,300
But, you know,
you always help out in the end.
476
00:26:09,740 --> 00:26:12,890
In your crazy roundabout kind of way.
477
00:26:19,070 --> 00:26:21,540
And when she's here for her session,
478
00:26:21,870 --> 00:26:24,240
try to pull the espresso handle fast...
479
00:26:25,550 --> 00:26:27,700
'Cause she likes it with a lot of foam.
480
00:26:37,200 --> 00:26:39,200
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