1 00:00:01,221 --> 00:00:03,217 Previously, on In Treatment... 2 00:00:03,828 --> 00:00:06,493 Are you saying that I pushed Kate into this situation? 3 00:00:06,653 --> 00:00:09,054 That I created this environment at home 4 00:00:09,296 --> 00:00:11,724 so that Kate could go fuck an insurance agent 5 00:00:12,032 --> 00:00:14,748 because really I'm in love with Laura? 6 00:00:14,908 --> 00:00:17,658 I think we should just discuss the possibility 7 00:00:17,841 --> 00:00:20,733 that Laura's better off with a different therapist. 8 00:00:21,033 --> 00:00:24,344 I am not sending Laura to another therapist. 9 00:00:24,755 --> 00:00:25,917 End of story. 10 00:00:26,281 --> 00:00:29,867 If I remember correctly, you were faced with the same scenario yourself. 11 00:00:30,108 --> 00:00:32,997 Don't forget I was the one who referred Charlie to you. 12 00:00:33,157 --> 00:00:35,874 You know that he never ever got over you? 13 00:00:36,157 --> 00:00:39,945 You failed the same test yourself, but you abandoned a patient. 14 00:01:07,094 --> 00:01:09,244 - How are you, Paul? - I'm fine. 15 00:01:13,120 --> 00:01:15,938 - Why, do I not seem fine? - No, you seem... 16 00:01:16,547 --> 00:01:17,539 antsy. 17 00:01:20,186 --> 00:01:22,250 I just keep needing to go to the bathroom. 18 00:01:22,410 --> 00:01:23,981 You remember where it is? 19 00:01:24,141 --> 00:01:27,035 - The door on your right... - No, I mean, all the time. 20 00:01:27,195 --> 00:01:28,276 It's a... 21 00:01:29,593 --> 00:01:31,829 - A urinary thing. - Oh, I see. 22 00:01:32,334 --> 00:01:35,586 - Have you seen a doctor? - Yeah. It's getting better. 23 00:01:35,946 --> 00:01:38,621 But, it's still a terrible sensation. You go to the bathroom, 24 00:01:38,781 --> 00:01:40,626 you're staying there, you... 25 00:01:40,786 --> 00:01:43,236 will it to happen, nothing. Not a drop. 26 00:01:43,396 --> 00:01:44,833 So uncomfortable. 27 00:01:46,097 --> 00:01:47,945 This and the stress you're under. 28 00:01:49,964 --> 00:01:50,973 What? 29 00:01:52,993 --> 00:01:54,026 Jesus. 30 00:01:54,801 --> 00:01:57,173 - You think it's psychosomatic? - No, not at all. 31 00:01:57,333 --> 00:02:00,578 - A symbolic urinary infection. - Symbolic how? 32 00:02:00,738 --> 00:02:03,245 My head's telling me one thing, my body's telling me another, 33 00:02:03,405 --> 00:02:07,572 my precise issue manifesting itself, as a physical malfunction of the... 34 00:02:10,595 --> 00:02:11,595 Yes? 35 00:02:13,650 --> 00:02:15,661 You said it was on the right? 36 00:02:16,518 --> 00:02:18,266 Excuse me for a moment. 37 00:02:21,803 --> 00:02:24,992 Season 1, Episode 15 38 00:02:25,152 --> 00:02:28,321 Sync by: Anyone, Coffee, Tagne 39 00:02:28,481 --> 00:02:35,011 www.swsub.com 40 00:02:42,573 --> 00:02:44,311 There's no soap in there. 41 00:02:44,471 --> 00:02:46,295 Really? I thought I saw soap. 44 00:03:01,903 --> 00:03:04,354 Let's say that's a fairly accurate assessment. 45 00:03:04,514 --> 00:03:06,690 - You wanna tell me why? - Actually... 46 00:03:06,931 --> 00:03:08,607 I'm angry at myself. 47 00:03:10,404 --> 00:03:12,054 For taking your advice. 48 00:03:12,280 --> 00:03:14,156 Even though... I knew better. 49 00:03:15,235 --> 00:03:17,368 - My advice? - Taking your advice like a novice, 50 00:03:17,608 --> 00:03:19,077 like a naive intern. 51 00:03:19,237 --> 00:03:23,165 Ignoring every cell in my body, and listening to you, instead. 52 00:03:23,856 --> 00:03:25,167 What happened? 53 00:03:29,584 --> 00:03:33,067 I met with Laura, and we talked about ending our sessions. 54 00:03:34,341 --> 00:03:35,691 A total disaster. 55 00:03:36,335 --> 00:03:38,245 Did the opposite of what you predicted. 56 00:03:38,405 --> 00:03:40,255 It was just... destructive. 57 00:03:42,156 --> 00:03:44,206 It sabotaged a year of therapy. 58 00:03:45,035 --> 00:03:46,032 How? 59 00:03:46,314 --> 00:03:48,189 Because it undermined her faith in me 60 00:03:48,349 --> 00:03:50,692 and in the work that we've done together. 61 00:03:50,934 --> 00:03:53,589 She asked me if I was ending our sessions because... 62 00:03:53,749 --> 00:03:55,076 I'm in love with her. 63 00:03:55,236 --> 00:03:57,874 That... Well, that what she heard me say. 64 00:03:58,034 --> 00:04:01,200 What she heard was: "I'm in love with you so... 65 00:04:01,596 --> 00:04:03,346 "I can't see you anymore." 66 00:04:03,865 --> 00:04:05,624 How did you put it exactly? 67 00:04:06,110 --> 00:04:08,762 Are you suggesting that I handled it badly? 68 00:04:08,922 --> 00:04:11,009 No. I just want to hear what you said. 69 00:04:11,169 --> 00:04:14,318 You know, I said we should discuss the options of... 70 00:04:15,628 --> 00:04:16,931 Of ending therapy. 71 00:04:17,091 --> 00:04:19,254 You didn't just drop it on her out of the blue? 72 00:04:19,414 --> 00:04:21,515 Of course, I didn't. I built up to it. 73 00:04:23,533 --> 00:04:24,883 She came in late. 74 00:04:25,842 --> 00:04:27,792 I thought that was important. 75 00:04:28,079 --> 00:04:30,149 Like it was her way of telling me something. 76 00:04:30,390 --> 00:04:31,825 I'm not following. 77 00:04:31,985 --> 00:04:35,143 I said I thought that her being late was her way of saying 78 00:04:35,303 --> 00:04:38,202 that she was angry at me. That she was... 79 00:04:39,154 --> 00:04:40,778 ambivalent about her therapy. 80 00:04:40,938 --> 00:04:43,866 Of course, she threw it back and she asked if... 81 00:04:44,980 --> 00:04:46,553 She does have a point, she asked 82 00:04:46,713 --> 00:04:50,664 if she wasn't the first person ever to fall in love for her therapist. 83 00:04:50,824 --> 00:04:53,383 And then, she told me to deal with it. 84 00:04:56,041 --> 00:04:58,324 Meaning, you know, this is my job. 85 00:04:58,614 --> 00:04:59,718 She's right. 86 00:05:00,682 --> 00:05:04,642 She said, "You are an experienced therapist, just deal with it." 87 00:05:05,476 --> 00:05:09,268 Are you surprised to the reaction? You put it on her and she threw it back. 88 00:05:09,428 --> 00:05:11,011 How was I supposed... 89 00:05:12,168 --> 00:05:14,631 You hammered me about this last week. 90 00:05:14,791 --> 00:05:18,555 You went on and on about what I... I knew it was a bad idea. 91 00:05:19,469 --> 00:05:22,368 And now, I'm coming to you with this mess... And all you... 92 00:05:22,608 --> 00:05:25,467 You're not an intern. Far from it. 93 00:05:25,831 --> 00:05:27,206 Don't play the intern. 94 00:05:27,699 --> 00:05:31,668 If you think something is a bad idea, you don't do it because I suggested it. 95 00:05:31,909 --> 00:05:34,941 I said we should talk about it. You were furious. 96 00:05:35,101 --> 00:05:37,309 Like I was trying to take Laura away from you. 97 00:05:37,469 --> 00:05:40,302 Two days later, you abruptly tried to stop her treatment. 98 00:05:40,543 --> 00:05:43,848 You said that ending the therapy was the best good solution. 99 00:05:44,088 --> 00:05:46,642 I said it might be necessary for her sake. 100 00:05:46,883 --> 00:05:50,729 When you say "good solution", I think you mean a solution to your problems. 101 00:05:51,834 --> 00:05:54,524 - Is that what I mean? - I'm assuming you acted hastily 102 00:05:54,765 --> 00:05:56,643 because you thought it was necessary. 103 00:05:56,803 --> 00:05:59,098 That it had to be dealt with quickly. 104 00:05:59,258 --> 00:06:01,317 What do you want, Gina? Do you want to... 105 00:06:01,477 --> 00:06:03,984 What do you want to hear? Do you want me to talk about Laura? 106 00:06:04,144 --> 00:06:06,463 Do you want us to have a "Laura" session? 107 00:06:06,623 --> 00:06:09,206 What do you want me to say, that I sit opposite her and say: 108 00:06:09,366 --> 00:06:11,061 "Oh, what if?" 109 00:06:15,347 --> 00:06:16,347 Well, I do. 110 00:06:19,311 --> 00:06:21,219 You think I'm in denial about it? 111 00:06:22,011 --> 00:06:22,845 I'm not. 112 00:06:23,641 --> 00:06:24,651 Laura is... 113 00:06:28,009 --> 00:06:29,447 She's attractive. 114 00:06:31,496 --> 00:06:33,980 Anybody who is a therapist knows that... 115 00:06:34,592 --> 00:06:38,068 Look, I know all the ways in with her, all the doors I could open 116 00:06:38,309 --> 00:06:40,680 - if I wanted to... - Do you imagine opening them? 117 00:06:40,840 --> 00:06:41,807 Yes I do. 118 00:06:50,780 --> 00:06:52,635 I fantasize 119 00:06:53,551 --> 00:06:54,747 about Laura. 120 00:06:58,741 --> 00:07:00,748 Look, it's like a gynecologist. 121 00:07:01,810 --> 00:07:04,344 It's easier for women to believe that their male gynecologist 122 00:07:04,585 --> 00:07:07,442 doesn't have any sexual desire for them. 123 00:07:08,940 --> 00:07:12,889 Of course, they want him to find their bodies attractive as well. 124 00:07:13,320 --> 00:07:14,852 - Don't they? - Don't even try 125 00:07:15,054 --> 00:07:17,976 to break down a relationship between a woman and her gynecologist. 126 00:07:18,136 --> 00:07:19,318 That's a deep end. 127 00:07:25,623 --> 00:07:27,369 Anyway, last week, I... 128 00:07:30,862 --> 00:07:32,080 I got this... 129 00:07:32,976 --> 00:07:35,835 sharp... kind of pain... 130 00:07:36,630 --> 00:07:40,204 So I went to the urologist and, on Monday, and I thought: 131 00:07:40,672 --> 00:07:42,022 "This is... 132 00:07:43,048 --> 00:07:44,698 "This is really scary." 133 00:07:46,332 --> 00:07:48,419 And then this random thought comes into my head 134 00:07:48,579 --> 00:07:50,960 because it's so cold in the room, and I think: 135 00:07:51,120 --> 00:07:54,262 "My dick is shrinking", and I don't want the doctor to think that, you know, 136 00:07:54,422 --> 00:07:57,941 that's the real size. Never mind... It was just... 137 00:08:06,048 --> 00:08:09,998 You know, there is no connection between a gynecologist office and... 138 00:08:10,923 --> 00:08:13,638 the intimacy between therapist and patient. 139 00:08:14,164 --> 00:08:15,957 What do you think the connection is? 140 00:08:16,198 --> 00:08:17,748 What I'm saying is that... 141 00:08:17,908 --> 00:08:21,834 As a male therapist, sitting across from a beautiful patient, I... 142 00:08:23,788 --> 00:08:25,208 I know exactly... 143 00:08:26,864 --> 00:08:28,296 How to engage her. 144 00:08:28,919 --> 00:08:31,702 I know exactly what it would take to... 145 00:08:32,101 --> 00:08:33,351 To turn her on. 146 00:08:34,367 --> 00:08:36,521 - You know what turns her on? - Yes, I do. 147 00:08:36,761 --> 00:08:38,812 - What? - Any number of things. 148 00:08:39,564 --> 00:08:42,025 But I could manipulate her to do anything I wanted. 149 00:08:43,009 --> 00:08:46,983 I know that. And I doubt if it's only male therapist who have those thoughts. 150 00:08:47,745 --> 00:08:49,408 Do you know what I'm talking about? 151 00:08:50,616 --> 00:08:54,761 For example, if a male doctor performs an examination on a female patient, 152 00:08:54,921 --> 00:08:56,619 there'd be a nurse present, right? 153 00:08:56,779 --> 00:08:59,292 - I mean, that's for a reason. - Am I the nurse? 154 00:09:00,326 --> 00:09:03,920 I keep you from crossing the line. Is that why you came to me? 155 00:09:06,390 --> 00:09:08,503 Let me tell you what worries me. 156 00:09:10,161 --> 00:09:11,729 You have boundaries too, 157 00:09:11,889 --> 00:09:14,851 and just like you, this woman knows how to cross them. 158 00:09:15,091 --> 00:09:18,904 All I'm saying is that the temptation is there for any therapist. 159 00:09:21,475 --> 00:09:23,099 I know what I'm doing. 160 00:09:24,081 --> 00:09:27,363 I mean, if I were a gynecologist, and I were performing an examination, 161 00:09:27,765 --> 00:09:31,412 - I wouldn't accidentally start to... - Listen to yourself. 162 00:09:32,205 --> 00:09:35,528 You know, you say you have no problem discussing Laura. 163 00:09:36,315 --> 00:09:37,971 And then, I bring her up, 164 00:09:38,131 --> 00:09:42,128 and suddenly, it's... It's all about genitals. 165 00:09:43,265 --> 00:09:46,132 Gynecologist, and urologist, and... 166 00:09:49,936 --> 00:09:50,918 You know, 167 00:09:51,284 --> 00:09:53,858 it seems to me that you're taking all of this 168 00:09:54,018 --> 00:09:56,463 to an extremely intimate realm. 169 00:09:57,466 --> 00:09:59,257 And you're saying to me... 170 00:09:59,417 --> 00:10:01,564 I'm extremely vulnerable, here. 171 00:10:02,261 --> 00:10:03,564 Help me here... 172 00:10:04,643 --> 00:10:06,023 Where it hurts. 173 00:10:12,908 --> 00:10:14,121 You know what? 174 00:10:15,579 --> 00:10:17,428 What gets to me is that... 175 00:10:18,482 --> 00:10:20,056 I lay it out for you. 176 00:10:21,782 --> 00:10:23,699 All I want is for you to give me... 177 00:10:23,859 --> 00:10:25,326 the Gina treatment,, 178 00:10:25,486 --> 00:10:28,471 to get in there with your cold, analytical scalpel, 179 00:10:28,631 --> 00:10:30,968 and get some perspective. Say: 180 00:10:31,325 --> 00:10:33,033 "Try this, Paul, try that!" 181 00:10:33,193 --> 00:10:35,483 What I didn't expect was that... 182 00:10:36,073 --> 00:10:38,316 That you give up on me, telling me to find her 183 00:10:38,476 --> 00:10:40,509 - a new therapist. - Give up on you? 184 00:10:40,669 --> 00:10:43,392 You suggest a course of action. When that fails, you say to me: 185 00:10:43,552 --> 00:10:46,253 "Hey, you did it, don't come blaming me." 186 00:10:46,413 --> 00:10:49,770 Do you really believe I convinced you to do something destructive? 187 00:10:49,930 --> 00:10:51,197 Let's talk about that. 188 00:10:51,801 --> 00:10:55,402 It seems like a distraction from talking about your feelings about her, 189 00:10:55,562 --> 00:10:59,593 but okay, let's start by looking at how you're conducting her therapy, 190 00:10:59,753 --> 00:11:01,999 which seems to me impulsive, 191 00:11:02,239 --> 00:11:05,211 unorganized, and if I'm honest, very problematic. 192 00:11:05,451 --> 00:11:08,767 - Really, is it now? - Whenever I try to talk about this, 193 00:11:08,927 --> 00:11:11,062 you unleash all this aggression 194 00:11:11,222 --> 00:11:13,844 to show me this area is off limits. 195 00:11:14,261 --> 00:11:18,051 - Touch this, I'll burn it down. - All right, we'll deal with it. 196 00:11:21,936 --> 00:11:23,187 Right... Right. 197 00:11:26,603 --> 00:11:29,360 You remember I was talking about Alex, the fighter pilot? 198 00:11:29,600 --> 00:11:31,862 - God, listen to yourself! - What? 199 00:11:32,102 --> 00:11:34,945 You say "Let's talk about Laura", and then you bring up Alex, 200 00:11:35,105 --> 00:11:37,821 or anything you can think of, so long as it's no Laura. 201 00:11:37,981 --> 00:11:39,480 This is about Laura. 202 00:11:42,361 --> 00:11:44,194 Alex, the fighter pilot... 203 00:11:46,109 --> 00:11:47,560 met Laura. 204 00:11:47,924 --> 00:11:49,473 - How? - After a session 205 00:11:49,633 --> 00:11:51,632 we had this talk about stopping therapy. 206 00:11:51,872 --> 00:11:54,095 The session ended and she wouldn't leave. 207 00:11:54,255 --> 00:11:58,414 She wanted extra time, I told her I couldn't, I had an appointment with... 208 00:11:58,713 --> 00:12:00,933 - urologist. - You didn't tell her that? 209 00:12:01,173 --> 00:12:02,850 No. I said I had an appointment. 210 00:12:03,010 --> 00:12:06,875 Anyway, she stormed out, and lo and behold, who does she meet? 211 00:12:08,055 --> 00:12:10,478 He was there and you had a conflicting appointment? 212 00:12:10,638 --> 00:12:13,453 He was a day early by mistake, which is weird, 213 00:12:13,613 --> 00:12:17,072 because this guy is such a military perfectionist. 214 00:12:17,531 --> 00:12:21,412 A machine. He can probably tell the time by triangulating the stars 215 00:12:21,652 --> 00:12:24,373 or something. Anyway, he forgot what day it was. 216 00:12:24,823 --> 00:12:28,822 So he comes back the next afternoon, tells me that they met, and now... 217 00:12:30,149 --> 00:12:31,505 They're dating. 218 00:12:37,813 --> 00:12:39,363 You think it's funny? 219 00:12:40,165 --> 00:12:41,747 Because I don't. 220 00:12:42,965 --> 00:12:45,227 It's not funny. It's curious, I guess. 221 00:12:46,073 --> 00:12:49,235 What's so... What's curiously funny about it? 222 00:12:49,395 --> 00:12:50,566 I don't know. 223 00:12:50,963 --> 00:12:54,730 Just give me a minute and let me figure out what I'm thinking.... 224 00:12:55,123 --> 00:12:57,573 It made me smile, I don't know why. 225 00:13:03,777 --> 00:13:05,700 - They're dating. - Dating? 226 00:13:05,860 --> 00:13:09,460 She went out with him to get back at me. I pushed her into it. 227 00:13:10,677 --> 00:13:12,132 You don't see that? 228 00:13:13,284 --> 00:13:15,139 I reject her unequivocally. 229 00:13:15,459 --> 00:13:18,378 And the next minute, she's hitting on the nearest guy. 230 00:13:18,538 --> 00:13:21,194 I mean, a guy literally on my own doorstep. 231 00:13:21,884 --> 00:13:23,806 That's not a reaction to me? 232 00:13:24,247 --> 00:13:25,540 Why would it be? 233 00:13:27,468 --> 00:13:30,064 Because she knew Alex would tell me. 234 00:13:30,433 --> 00:13:33,850 Well, first of all, isn't that a reaction against her boyfriend, 235 00:13:34,010 --> 00:13:35,778 the man she's going to marry? 236 00:13:39,371 --> 00:13:41,409 Why are you the betrayed man, here? 237 00:13:53,211 --> 00:13:55,525 Which would be the worse situation? 238 00:13:57,122 --> 00:14:00,511 If you realized that you were the center of Laura's life 239 00:14:01,184 --> 00:14:04,234 and that she was dating another man to get at you, 240 00:14:05,464 --> 00:14:06,213 or... 241 00:14:06,947 --> 00:14:09,296 If... the transference simply faded, 242 00:14:10,330 --> 00:14:13,307 and she was back to viewing you as a therapist. 243 00:14:13,467 --> 00:14:16,441 She thought about you during sessions, that's it. 244 00:14:17,925 --> 00:14:19,780 Do you think I'm an egomaniac? 245 00:14:20,020 --> 00:14:23,159 No, I'm asking which would be the worse situation. 246 00:14:23,399 --> 00:14:25,644 I don't get off on being worshipped by my patients, 247 00:14:25,804 --> 00:14:28,670 if that's what you mean. It's not like I'm in some kind of... 248 00:14:28,830 --> 00:14:32,337 - Some kind of a cult. - If her feelings were to change, 249 00:14:32,851 --> 00:14:35,097 you wouldn't have a sense of loss? 250 00:14:36,934 --> 00:14:39,425 Pretty clear, how you want me to answer this. 251 00:14:41,252 --> 00:14:45,118 Do you not get that I'm concerned about the right and the wrong of this, 252 00:14:45,278 --> 00:14:47,293 as it affects all my patients? 253 00:14:47,812 --> 00:14:50,126 You're very concerned, I can tell that. 254 00:14:50,782 --> 00:14:51,959 But you know, 255 00:14:53,052 --> 00:14:56,625 sometimes, helping a patient view the world differently 256 00:14:56,785 --> 00:14:59,778 it's a powerful experience. It's a little addictive. 257 00:15:00,018 --> 00:15:02,995 It's a powerful experience because it contributes 258 00:15:03,155 --> 00:15:04,950 to somebody's well being. 259 00:15:05,517 --> 00:15:07,953 It's not about an inflated sense of... 260 00:15:08,193 --> 00:15:11,243 Power. Do you think I'm addicted to power? 261 00:15:14,149 --> 00:15:15,036 How... 262 00:15:16,420 --> 00:15:19,238 - How does Laura see you? - What do you mean? 263 00:15:19,483 --> 00:15:21,821 When she looks at you, what does she see? 264 00:15:21,981 --> 00:15:23,582 - Why? - Bear with me. 265 00:15:26,255 --> 00:15:27,609 What does she see? 266 00:15:30,521 --> 00:15:31,772 She sees... 267 00:15:33,422 --> 00:15:35,051 a man, obviously. 268 00:15:36,373 --> 00:15:38,070 A lot older than she is. 269 00:15:40,702 --> 00:15:42,947 An authoritative strong man. 270 00:15:43,740 --> 00:15:46,061 She thinks if she could get close to him, 271 00:15:46,221 --> 00:15:49,226 that she could maybe take on some of his strength. 272 00:15:50,931 --> 00:15:54,365 At the same time, she's waiting for him to disappoint her, 273 00:15:54,525 --> 00:15:57,316 because, somewhere down the line, inevitably, 274 00:15:58,364 --> 00:15:59,839 that's her story with men. 275 00:16:00,726 --> 00:16:01,698 What else? 276 00:16:01,858 --> 00:16:05,770 She thinks I won't be interested in her unless she offers herself sexually. 277 00:16:05,930 --> 00:16:08,903 She associates concern for her as a woman 278 00:16:09,999 --> 00:16:11,022 with sex. 279 00:16:11,895 --> 00:16:13,468 For her, sex is... 280 00:16:14,009 --> 00:16:16,417 a currency that she uses to pay for... 281 00:16:17,715 --> 00:16:20,234 emotional protection from men. 282 00:16:20,474 --> 00:16:22,570 Don't analyze. Just describe. 283 00:16:22,810 --> 00:16:25,684 - Where is this going? - No, just stay with it. 284 00:16:29,300 --> 00:16:32,608 She thinks I'm a coward, which is a bit of a turn off. 285 00:16:33,286 --> 00:16:36,508 She believes that I'm totally in love with her, that... 286 00:16:36,668 --> 00:16:39,454 I think all the rest of my patients are a drag and... 287 00:16:39,614 --> 00:16:41,807 that I can't wait for her session. 288 00:16:42,531 --> 00:16:43,851 I assume she... 289 00:16:45,624 --> 00:16:47,789 I assume she finds me attractive. 290 00:16:48,285 --> 00:16:50,135 Otherwise, why would she... 291 00:16:53,292 --> 00:16:55,471 - Isn't this enough? - Now, 292 00:16:56,305 --> 00:16:58,825 you describe her, how you see her. 293 00:17:00,306 --> 00:17:01,536 I would say... 294 00:17:02,626 --> 00:17:05,808 - An hysterical disorder... - Don't analyze. Describe. 295 00:17:06,279 --> 00:17:08,422 Did you mean what does she look like? 296 00:17:10,232 --> 00:17:12,745 If one had to pick her out of a crowd, I'd say... 297 00:17:12,985 --> 00:17:15,247 No, if you had to pick her out of a crowd. 298 00:17:15,487 --> 00:17:17,750 God, you're such a stickler. 299 00:17:17,990 --> 00:17:19,209 She's thirty. 300 00:17:21,211 --> 00:17:22,171 She's... 301 00:17:23,134 --> 00:17:24,048 beautiful. 302 00:17:27,398 --> 00:17:28,562 Great smile... 303 00:17:30,054 --> 00:17:32,763 Inquisitive look in her eyes. Really sharp... 304 00:17:33,873 --> 00:17:35,061 Very smart... 305 00:17:36,848 --> 00:17:39,325 She's got this great laugh that just... 306 00:17:40,637 --> 00:17:44,560 Just bubbles up out of her. It comes from nowhere, like quicksilver. 307 00:17:46,511 --> 00:17:49,682 She's childish I'd say. No, not childish, 308 00:17:49,981 --> 00:17:50,988 childlike. 309 00:17:52,184 --> 00:17:53,247 Vulnerable. 310 00:17:54,448 --> 00:17:56,196 It makes you want to... 311 00:17:56,856 --> 00:17:58,073 hold her. 312 00:17:59,466 --> 00:18:01,418 She's fascinated with sex. 313 00:18:01,841 --> 00:18:05,005 Well, with the power of sex, as if she were a teenager 314 00:18:06,065 --> 00:18:07,753 who's just discovered it. 315 00:18:08,554 --> 00:18:11,971 Always, always makes reference to it. 316 00:18:12,557 --> 00:18:14,936 Vivid, sexual experiences that, 317 00:18:15,672 --> 00:18:18,248 I got to say, are very poetic, sometimes. 318 00:18:25,854 --> 00:18:28,679 She told me about a summer after her mother died. 319 00:18:28,839 --> 00:18:30,329 She was 15. 320 00:18:30,812 --> 00:18:33,002 And she went to live with this couple in San Diego, 321 00:18:33,162 --> 00:18:35,337 friends of her father. 322 00:18:35,641 --> 00:18:38,889 And she fell in love with this guy, much older than her. 323 00:18:41,097 --> 00:18:44,247 It was an escape, I think, from her father who was... 324 00:18:44,825 --> 00:18:45,629 really... 325 00:18:45,942 --> 00:18:47,339 depressed and sad, 326 00:18:48,265 --> 00:18:49,883 after the death of his wife. 327 00:18:52,220 --> 00:18:54,571 That can be pretty horrible, you know? 328 00:18:55,257 --> 00:18:57,353 A child taking care of a parent. 329 00:18:57,965 --> 00:19:00,060 Like you did after your mother's breakdown. 330 00:19:02,388 --> 00:19:04,132 Nothing worse than a kid... 331 00:19:04,436 --> 00:19:06,084 playing parents... 332 00:19:06,564 --> 00:19:08,708 to a father or mother... 333 00:19:09,478 --> 00:19:12,928 It's unnatural. It reverses of the order of things, it's like... 334 00:19:13,413 --> 00:19:15,077 kind of death, I suppose. 335 00:19:15,610 --> 00:19:18,162 For you, it was after your father ran off with his patient. 336 00:19:18,402 --> 00:19:20,247 You keep coming back to that. 337 00:19:20,487 --> 00:19:22,708 I try to find the roots of your connection to Laura. 338 00:19:22,948 --> 00:19:25,140 It's got nothing to do with my father. 339 00:19:25,541 --> 00:19:28,029 Laura's the one re-enacting, not me. 340 00:19:28,189 --> 00:19:30,624 Laura's re-enacting this... 341 00:19:31,488 --> 00:19:32,864 escape. 342 00:19:33,306 --> 00:19:35,114 Because that's what I am to her. 343 00:19:35,274 --> 00:19:38,015 Escape from what? Her boyfriend, her wedding? 344 00:19:38,537 --> 00:19:41,113 I've tried to explain it to her that... 345 00:19:42,057 --> 00:19:44,553 She's really making me into... 346 00:19:45,319 --> 00:19:46,315 another David. 347 00:19:47,001 --> 00:19:48,819 Not your David but... 348 00:19:48,979 --> 00:19:51,929 The older guy from that couple, that took her in. 349 00:19:52,602 --> 00:19:54,552 She wants me to be that guy... 350 00:19:55,073 --> 00:19:55,949 again. 351 00:19:56,647 --> 00:19:58,869 - You're sure? - Well, God forbid... 352 00:19:59,109 --> 00:20:02,539 I should say anything you agree with, no matter how clearly I lay it out. 353 00:20:03,855 --> 00:20:06,816 Her attraction to me, her wanting to run away with me, 354 00:20:06,976 --> 00:20:09,183 there's something bigger that's... 355 00:20:10,243 --> 00:20:12,146 that's driving that impulse. 356 00:20:14,619 --> 00:20:15,969 Maybe you wanna run away? 357 00:20:16,209 --> 00:20:19,095 - What? - Escape from Kate, from your work. 358 00:20:19,326 --> 00:20:21,891 God, you're so fixated on your pet theories. 359 00:20:22,192 --> 00:20:23,688 Everything has to... 360 00:20:30,248 --> 00:20:31,828 Did I tell you that... 361 00:20:34,948 --> 00:20:38,659 That Kate is going to Rome next week with her insurance-agent boyfriend? 362 00:20:39,548 --> 00:20:41,628 She's the one that's running, not me. 363 00:20:41,788 --> 00:20:44,670 I told her: "Fine, just get the hell out. 364 00:20:45,950 --> 00:20:47,438 "I don't wanna, I... 365 00:20:48,483 --> 00:20:50,403 "I don't want to look at you." 366 00:20:53,324 --> 00:20:55,217 We don't live together, anyway. 367 00:20:56,113 --> 00:20:58,863 - What do you mean? - I sleep in the office. 368 00:21:00,385 --> 00:21:03,137 During the day, we act like everything is fine, 369 00:21:04,033 --> 00:21:05,569 but at night, I'm... 370 00:21:07,682 --> 00:21:09,732 - I'm on the couch. - Since when? 371 00:21:09,892 --> 00:21:11,793 Last four nights. 372 00:21:12,276 --> 00:21:15,024 I brought in my blankets and my clothes. 373 00:21:16,112 --> 00:21:17,781 How are the kids taking this? 374 00:21:18,608 --> 00:21:20,808 Rosie didn't come home on Tuesday. 375 00:21:21,208 --> 00:21:23,288 Said she'd be back late, but... 376 00:21:25,165 --> 00:21:26,825 In the morning, she wasn't there. 377 00:21:26,985 --> 00:21:29,168 She said she slept over at some friend's. 378 00:21:30,752 --> 00:21:34,673 Ian had a week off from college. He didn't even call, didn't come back. 379 00:21:35,008 --> 00:21:37,726 Got back after work yesterday and Kate announced that... 380 00:21:37,886 --> 00:21:40,588 you know, "Hey, I'm going out". 381 00:21:42,060 --> 00:21:44,410 I said, "Fine, do whatever you want." 382 00:21:45,507 --> 00:21:46,323 So... 383 00:21:47,555 --> 00:21:49,379 I went to make dinner and... 384 00:21:52,147 --> 00:21:53,939 There's no food in the kitchen. 385 00:21:54,099 --> 00:21:57,449 I went to the fridge, I look in... Nothing. Not even an egg. 386 00:21:58,003 --> 00:22:00,915 Max and I ordered pizzas, then I put him to bed. 387 00:22:02,271 --> 00:22:04,457 I was gonna sleep in the office, then I thought: 388 00:22:04,617 --> 00:22:06,967 "What if something happens?" You know? 389 00:22:07,935 --> 00:22:10,527 He's upstairs by himself, he's all alone. I... 390 00:22:11,391 --> 00:22:14,241 couldn't bring myself to sleep in that bedroom. 391 00:22:14,527 --> 00:22:16,077 Not even for his sake. 392 00:22:17,359 --> 00:22:19,183 I find that bedroom kind of... 393 00:22:21,503 --> 00:22:22,671 repulsive. 394 00:22:24,263 --> 00:22:27,713 I was asleep for while. I don't know what time it was, and... 395 00:22:29,714 --> 00:22:32,498 I wake up and I hear this voice saying, 396 00:22:33,458 --> 00:22:34,386 "Daddy". 397 00:22:35,378 --> 00:22:38,028 And Max is there, you know, just standing at the door. 398 00:22:38,463 --> 00:22:40,975 He asked me if I could sleep with him and... 399 00:22:42,135 --> 00:22:43,385 I said, "Sure". 400 00:22:45,151 --> 00:22:47,246 He hasn't done that since he was 5 years old. 401 00:22:49,478 --> 00:22:51,553 My guess, that's the answer to your question: 402 00:22:51,713 --> 00:22:53,616 is the kids know everything. 403 00:22:57,537 --> 00:23:00,160 Anyway, she's leaving in 3 days, 404 00:23:00,928 --> 00:23:01,824 and... 405 00:23:03,225 --> 00:23:06,807 - Probably for the best, really. - How is it for the best? 406 00:23:07,047 --> 00:23:08,672 It's not for the best. 407 00:23:10,024 --> 00:23:11,432 It's a nightmare. 408 00:23:12,792 --> 00:23:13,992 It's painful. 409 00:23:15,016 --> 00:23:16,733 But in a way, you're free... 410 00:23:18,050 --> 00:23:20,904 to go through... whatever it is with Laura. 411 00:23:22,768 --> 00:23:25,296 I wanted my wife to leave me for a salesman? 412 00:23:25,456 --> 00:23:27,392 Maybe not, but it's convenient. 413 00:23:27,552 --> 00:23:30,791 Convenient? She's flying to Rome to fuck an insurance salesman, 414 00:23:30,951 --> 00:23:32,301 for Christ's sake! 415 00:23:32,487 --> 00:23:34,487 - Is that really what he is? - I don't know. 416 00:23:34,647 --> 00:23:37,047 He's a... runs an employment agency or something. 417 00:23:37,207 --> 00:23:39,631 What am I supposed to do? Chain her to the bed? 418 00:23:40,003 --> 00:23:43,787 Track every move she makes, like that guy I have in therapy, Jake? 419 00:23:44,501 --> 00:23:46,132 Or Alex who, you know, 420 00:23:46,292 --> 00:23:48,852 whose wife grinds her teeth in her sleep and... 421 00:23:49,012 --> 00:23:52,561 wakes up the next day and says, "The marriage is over, I'm leaving". 422 00:23:52,801 --> 00:23:54,674 You keep bringing patients into this. 423 00:23:54,834 --> 00:23:56,705 My wife is running off but... 424 00:23:56,865 --> 00:24:00,495 apparently, it's not my wife, really it's me. According to you. 425 00:24:00,970 --> 00:24:02,738 Since I'm my father, it must be me. 426 00:24:08,615 --> 00:24:11,795 I've been trying to understand since our first session 427 00:24:12,135 --> 00:24:14,975 why you came to me. Me, specifically. 428 00:24:17,449 --> 00:24:19,015 I remember, on our first visit, 429 00:24:19,175 --> 00:24:22,112 you said that you felt like you were cutting corners. 430 00:24:22,944 --> 00:24:26,512 "You have no patience for your patients" that's what you said. 431 00:24:27,488 --> 00:24:30,800 And that, if they knew what you really... 432 00:24:30,960 --> 00:24:33,467 thought about them, they'd stop coming. 433 00:24:33,627 --> 00:24:36,771 I'm wondering if maybe, that's what you want, for them to stop coming. 434 00:24:37,012 --> 00:24:38,148 Why would I want that? 435 00:24:38,388 --> 00:24:40,567 Not literally, on an unconscious level. 436 00:24:41,245 --> 00:24:42,589 "Unconscious..." 437 00:24:43,643 --> 00:24:46,393 Maybe you want to transfer your patients to me. 438 00:24:48,176 --> 00:24:49,534 Where did that come from? 439 00:24:49,880 --> 00:24:52,393 It's not a real option. It's a wish. 440 00:24:53,028 --> 00:24:56,178 You could dump your patients on me... your problems. 441 00:24:56,828 --> 00:25:00,140 When I suggested that we find another therapist for Laura, 442 00:25:00,300 --> 00:25:02,884 you immediately assumed that I would treat her. 443 00:25:03,044 --> 00:25:06,007 And then, you went down the list. You described each patient. 444 00:25:06,167 --> 00:25:08,255 But isn't that what the sessions are for? 445 00:25:08,415 --> 00:25:11,737 No. It felt like you were preparing me metaphorically... 446 00:25:11,897 --> 00:25:14,978 for the day when you hand them over, when you say "Here, 447 00:25:15,138 --> 00:25:17,427 "their problems are not my problems. 448 00:25:17,731 --> 00:25:18,931 "I have to leave." 449 00:25:19,091 --> 00:25:21,723 Yeah, I'm gonna run off to the Caribbean and... 450 00:25:22,023 --> 00:25:25,351 I'm gonna be sipping cocktails with Laura, and scuba diving. 451 00:25:25,511 --> 00:25:29,156 I mean, what on earth are you on about? I just took on 3 more new patients. 452 00:25:29,654 --> 00:25:33,502 You said you did that to prove to yourself that everything's OK. 453 00:25:34,139 --> 00:25:36,621 That couple, you said you don't care if they ever come back. 454 00:25:36,781 --> 00:25:38,757 You don't like the navy pilot. 455 00:25:40,373 --> 00:25:44,214 And sometimes, it seems you're not that upset about Kate. 456 00:25:45,333 --> 00:25:46,165 What? 457 00:25:46,709 --> 00:25:47,884 Not always. 458 00:25:48,272 --> 00:25:49,424 Sometimes. 459 00:25:57,460 --> 00:25:59,020 Maybe all these things that... 460 00:25:59,700 --> 00:26:02,399 should be bad are really okay. 461 00:26:03,252 --> 00:26:04,812 And then, there's me. 462 00:26:05,491 --> 00:26:09,348 You're using me as your accomplice. Not in a practical way. 463 00:26:10,021 --> 00:26:12,900 But emotionally, to help you move on from them. 464 00:26:13,060 --> 00:26:15,203 That way you're free to be with Laura. 465 00:26:20,584 --> 00:26:23,304 You know, I don't even want to say to that. 466 00:26:24,168 --> 00:26:27,328 I mean, what... are you doing? 467 00:26:27,556 --> 00:26:30,496 Is this what you call help? 'cause that's why I came here. 468 00:26:30,656 --> 00:26:34,379 I came here for you to help me. I keep saying this. 469 00:26:34,924 --> 00:26:37,093 But through some misguided line of reasoning, 470 00:26:37,253 --> 00:26:39,202 through some narcissistic... 471 00:26:39,842 --> 00:26:43,681 need of yours to save the day, to put yourself at the front and the center, 472 00:26:43,943 --> 00:26:45,423 we've ended up here. 473 00:26:45,717 --> 00:26:47,498 In this same place... 474 00:26:47,658 --> 00:26:51,221 just to confirm that you, Gina, are right. 475 00:26:52,046 --> 00:26:53,438 As always. 476 00:27:01,863 --> 00:27:04,113 Maybe I misjudged you, I don't know. 477 00:27:04,615 --> 00:27:06,765 I thought you were better than this. 478 00:27:10,085 --> 00:27:13,094 You know, I've got to say you really sometimes are so infuriating. 479 00:27:13,334 --> 00:27:16,889 The way you keep coming back to your pet theories. My father... 480 00:27:17,049 --> 00:27:18,545 Kate... 481 00:27:31,743 --> 00:27:33,215 I guess I'd better go. 482 00:27:34,543 --> 00:27:36,815 - Have a good week, Paul. - You too.