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- I don't think I can do this.
- Do what?
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This therapy. I...
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I don't think
it's leading anywhere, that's all.
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Where do you want it to lead, Alex?
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Someplace where I feel
less shitty about myself.
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You know, I got a call from my wing commander,
he's trying to figure out if i'm ready
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for active duty.
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What do you think?
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No, I don't think you're ready.
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Well, I feel like
I should salute you.
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At ease, doc.
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This is gonna be my last time,
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for a while anyway.
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I'm here to settle up.
And I need something from you.
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Would you like some coffee?
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Sure.
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I know I'm not giving you any notice.
You want me to pay
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- for the next session too?
- No no, that's ... that's fine.
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Sorry the gravy train
is ending here, doc.
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That's okay.
So why are you leaving?
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I got you curious, huh?
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Remember I told you
my squadron commander called me?
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Well, last week
they finally brought me in.
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Now I thought they wanted
to ease me back in, but no.
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They need me to train the next wave
of pilots for their deployment,
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Get them ready to fly asap.
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Always playing catch-up in this war.
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- So what did you say to them?
- I said, "Fuck you!
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"I'm 39 years old,
in the prime of my life
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"and one of the most decorated
fighter pilots in the Navy.
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"No, you're not
gonna put me out to pasture,
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"Not not in the middle of a war.
Get yourself another boy."
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- That's what you said to them?
- Well, not really, but I thought it.
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Actually what I said was,
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"Yes, sir. However I can be
of service to you, sir." And...
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I reported for duty the next day.
You think I'm crazy?
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I can only get away
with that bullshit with you.
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Well, at least we know
why you come here.
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So what's it like
being back at base?
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When they look in my eyes,
they know i've been places
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they couldn't conjure up
in their worst nightmares.
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Makes them think twice
before fucking with me.
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So, training young pilots is that ...
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Is that something you can
see yourself doing?
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I don't know,
maybe in another context.
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But this is set up to fail.
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There's no way these kids are gonna be
ready for combat missions in a month.
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I mean, it's crazy.
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I'm taking them through
tactical situations.
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Some of them are doing
better than others but ...
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when you're up in the air,
it's read and react.
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Read, react, like a machine.
No thinking. It's like split-second
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decisions that can cost thousands
of lives, including their own.
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Most of these kids, they look at me on
the simulators and they're like, "whoa!"
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Well, they're blown away.
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That must feel really great.
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I overheard a couple of these kids
talking shit about me,
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Saying that I might be good
on the simulators
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but they'd kick my ass
on the obstacle course.
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Called me old man,
all that bullshit. Well, hey...
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I called their bluff.
Check this out: now the drill
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is called the gauntlet.
It's a five-mile run through dense woods
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and sand traps, and rope-and-barrier
hurdles, balance beams
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and a maze. Now after all that,
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there's the helo-dunker.
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Nothe helo-Dunker
is like this giant...
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It looks like a beer can.
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It's basically a crash simulator.
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And we hit the water hard,
upside down, strapped in tight.
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And we have to get out
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with almost no oxygen.
We're in full gear: helmet, spacesuit,
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G-suit, gloves, the whole nine yards.
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Now there are four immersions.
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The last two, the water's dark.
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It's like a night landing.
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A lot of these kids,
they get disoriented
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and start flipping the fuck out.
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So we have to rescue them.
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It's tough.
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It separates the men from the boys,
let me tell you.
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So, doc...
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how do you think I did?
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Do I really have to guess, Alex?
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Touche.
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I never panic.
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I'm at home down there
in the dark,
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swimming for my life.
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And not only did I beat
all their asses,
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I came within two seconds
of a base record.
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Not bad for a broken-down
old pilot, huh?
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Come on, Paul.
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Okay, so my squadron commander
calls me back up to his office.
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This time all the brass
were there
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and they want to know if i'm interested
in going back to active duty.
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If I am, I have to go through
a modified basic training
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at Pensacola, a battery of tests...
Physical, psychological...
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Just to make sure
I've recovered.
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So I said,
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"bring it on, baby!
I'm ready for anything!"
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Are you surprised?
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Well, a little, I guess.
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I shouldn't be, but I suppose
it was always a possibility.
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But you think it's too fast, right?
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Do you think it's too fast?
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Doc, you have no idea
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how good
it feels to be useful again.
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Let me tell you the truth, I think
that's been the real problem.
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I've been sitting around
feeling sorry for myself.
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I'm a doer, not a talker,
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so all of this... That's over.
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Those days are over.
So here's what I need from you:
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You're gonna get a call
from one of your compatriots.
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He's a Navy doctor named Connell.
He's gonna be checking up on me.
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You told the Navy you were seeing me?
I thought that was professional suicide.
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Yeah, they caught wind
that I had left the house.
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They wanted to know if it had anything
to do wit the bombing and the aftermath.
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So I told them i'd been doing
some counseling with you...
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You know, my marriage...
And that I was fit as a fiddle.
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- Do you feel fit as a fiddle?
- Paul, don't fuck with me on this.
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You're talking about
my career now.
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Just tell him all good things.
Plus, the Navy needs me.
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You think they can afford to have
someone like me just pissing around?
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Just tell him i'm ready.
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Let's just talk about
whether you are ready or not.
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Look hey, cut the crap! I need this.
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You're putting me in a very
difficult position, Alex.
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We talked about a lot more
than michaela.
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You don't expect me to lie, do you?
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Okay, physically i'm fine.
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I had the heart attack
almost four months ago.
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All the cardiologists say that...
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They're amazed by my recovery.
I can handle it.
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But what about emotionally, Alex?
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Can you imagine yourself
back in an airplane
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flying a mission
after what happened?
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You're talking about the madrasa thing?
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Look, the madrasa thing is the crisis that
brought you here in the first place.
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Are you sure that you're ready
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to put yourself in that kind
of situation again?
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No, listen.
Terrorists hide among civilians.
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It's a common tactic.
It's their fault
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if there's collateral damage,
not ours.
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They're the ones putting their
women and children at risk.
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Let let's put aside the question
of who's at fault or who isn't.
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Could you live with yourself
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if you were responsible
for more civilian casualties?
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That's bullshit.
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Alex, you gave yourself
a heart attack a few months ago.
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Can you honestly tell me
that you're not worried,
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that you're not scared
that your guilt will lead to...
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Guilt is not an issue
for a pilot in a time of war.
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- We're not trained to think that way.
- I'm not asking what you think.
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I'm asking you to
tell me what you feel.
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And i'm telling you it doesn't matter.
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Let me just see who this is.
Sorry.
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It went fine.
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Yeah, they did ask me.
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No.
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No, I can't talk about that right now.
Can I call you back?
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Michaela, let me go, all right?
I'm with somebody right now.
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Yeah, I will.
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Yeah, bye.
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Sorry.
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She wanted to know how the meeting
with the brass went.
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You know, she's totally obsessed
with me flying again. You know that.
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Why do you think she's so
anxious for you to fly again?
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Well, my little sabbatical
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upset her sense of order.
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Now, if is a couple of weeks,
it would be all right.
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I was taking a break, whatever.
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I told you we were having dinner
to discuss me coming back home.
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(Paul) Yeah
Well, the heat is on.
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I don't think
I can fight it any longer.
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- Plus it's what everybody wants.
- Everyone?
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Everybody... My father included.
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Well you know, he and Michaela,
they're united in everything.
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And why is you father so anxious
for you to fly again?
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Well, there's nothing
deep behind it, Paul.
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He thinks I need to get back to my job.
It's what a man does.
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And he's right.
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Can you tell me how you got
to that conclusion?
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Are you sure you have time for that?
'Cause I...
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We've got plenty of time.
I think this is something important
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we need to talk about especially if you
are trying to push me for an assessment.
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It's hot as hell in here.
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We had a party for my son,
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A birthday party...
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And everything became clear.
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I told you my son roy
is a special kid.
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Have I told you that?
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He doesn't seem to need friends.
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So, when we asked him what kind of
party he wanted, he said only family.
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I supported that.
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I didn't want to force him
to be anything he isn't.
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So all the uncles and aunts
came and the cousins,
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and everybody was
in a good mood.
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My dad, he got there early.
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He's establishing
and setting up everything
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and acting like he owns the place,
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ordering my wife around.
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I could tell he had been
there a lot since I left.
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And the bitch he married,
she was there too,
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in the kitchen cooking
as if my mother never existed.
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It made me feel like shit,
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Like a...
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A stranger in my own home.
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My father sees me and he gives me
one of those cold smiles.
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"Alex, nice of you to make it."
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I could tell he had
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a wild hair up his ass
about something.
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But I didn't ask.
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'Cause when he wants
to share, he shares.
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And then he's all over me,
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And i'm in no rush to get there.
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But he is great with roy, though.
They connect.
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Somehow it's easy for them.
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Did you feel like you weren't
connecting with roy?
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There were a lot of people there.
We didn't have much time alone.
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Have you seen a lot of him
since you left home?
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Once, twice. I don't know
what you consider a lot.
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Did he ever ask why you weren't
living at home anymore?
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Yeah. I told him his dad
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was on a special mission.
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I mean, i'm gone half the time.
He's used to it.
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To tell you the truth,
i think it's been a relief for him.
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Why would it be a relief
for his dad to be away?
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Well...
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He was loose as hell
at the party.
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He's running around,
he's playing with his cousins,
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he's talking to everybody.
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You should have seen him.
He was a different person.
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He was open, he was outgoing.
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It's like he bloomed
in my absence.
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Well, not bloomed.
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Jeez, he's not a fucking flower.
It's like he spread his wings.
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Yeah, that's what it was like.
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Maybe he was happy
because you were there,
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Maybe because he was
just glad to see you.
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It's interesting
when you talk about flying, Alex,
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because you make no bones
whatsoever about the fact
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that the Navy really needs you,
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that they can't do it without you.
247
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Yet when it comes to talking
about your son...
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Paul, Paul, slow the fuck down.
249
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The boy was having a great day
before I ever got there.
250
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Is it possible
that you're projecting
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your own feelings about
your father onto your son?
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How do you mean?
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Well, that you might be
doing better yourself||
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spreading your wings too
if he wasn't there,
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If he wasn't...
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in your way, so to speak.
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No, doc, my being there
258
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didn't make the kid happy that day.
259
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Just the opposite in fact.
260
00:12:35,770 --> 00:12:37,280
How? What happened?
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00:12:39,340 --> 00:12:42,390
I told you roy was
obsessed with chess, right?
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I got him this magnificent set.
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It was all ivory,
imported from Nairobi,
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Just a real work of art.
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And he just looked at the pieces,
mesmerized.
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But the board, that was only
half of the gift. The other half...
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was that I had been working
on my own chess game
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And I was gonna play my boy.
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So we sat down at the chessboard.
Everybody's watching.
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I thought
i'd open with something simple...
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The king's indian, which is
where you establish your pawns
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in the center of the board.
273
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Then he moved, and I countered.
274
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And he moved again.
I countered again.
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And we're moving along
at this real nice clip
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and I think I'm holding my own.
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And then...
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I'll never forget it.
He looked up suddenly
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and it was like a shadow
fell over his face.
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00:13:31,650 --> 00:13:34,130
And he stood up from
the table and he said,
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"I'm not feeling well.
I don't want to play."
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He goes up to his bedroom.
283
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I follow him up the stairs.
I knock on the door.
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He doesn't answer. I crack
the door open and I see him.
285
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He's sitting at his desk.
He's got his back to me.
286
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I don't know if he heard me.
287
00:13:53,540 --> 00:13:55,340
I was about to say something,
but I didn't.
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I just stood there and I stared
at the back of his head.
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Something about him...
I don't know what it was...
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It broke my heart.
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00:14:11,660 --> 00:14:14,070
Then I heard these footsteps coming up
behind me, I turn around
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and it's my father. And he says,
"you know why he quit, don't you?"
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I shook my head.
294
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And he gives me that look,
that look that sees right through you.
295
00:14:23,790 --> 00:14:26,430
He says,
"He knew in three moves, Alex,
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00:14:26,890 --> 00:14:28,290
"You were gonna lose.
297
00:14:28,840 --> 00:14:31,980
"He didn't want to beat his father
in front of the whole family.
298
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"He felt sorry for you."
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Do you think he was right?
300
00:14:37,010 --> 00:14:40,840
Yeah, I know he was right.
That's my son to a tee.
301
00:14:41,780 --> 00:14:45,410
Then my father, he pulls me into
a room and he just ripped into me.
302
00:14:45,580 --> 00:14:47,270
He says, "You are pathetic.
303
00:14:47,760 --> 00:14:50,180
"One thing goes wrong
in your little cushy life
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"and you turn soft as butter."
305
00:14:52,780 --> 00:14:55,870
He didn't understand why
I wasn't eager to fly again
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00:14:56,230 --> 00:14:59,000
or why I was away from home
doing god knows what
307
00:14:59,170 --> 00:15:01,010
With god knows who
like a fucking teenager.
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00:15:01,180 --> 00:15:03,180
He says, "You disappoint me, boy.
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"I raised you to be stronger than that.
I raised you to be a man."
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00:15:06,440 --> 00:15:09,590
And he wanted to know who put
all these ideas in my head.
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Who turned me into a...
What did he...
312
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Who turned me into a selfish,
whining little bitch.
313
00:15:15,480 --> 00:15:17,220
Was it the fags
I was hanging around with?
314
00:15:17,390 --> 00:15:20,390
Or was it... And this one he really
seized on... Was it the shrink?
315
00:15:21,470 --> 00:15:23,420
How would he know
you were seeing a shrink?
316
00:15:23,590 --> 00:15:25,560
- Michaela told him.
- You told her?
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Yeah, I had to.
318
00:15:29,660 --> 00:15:31,210
You know i've been paying you cash,
319
00:15:31,380 --> 00:15:33,190
'cause I was trying
to avoid a paper trail.
320
00:15:33,380 --> 00:15:36,410
But that means i've been withdrawing
from atms all the time.
321
00:15:36,580 --> 00:15:38,370
Michaela looks at
the bank statements
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00:15:38,540 --> 00:15:40,320
and she saw
there wasn't money there,
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00:15:40,490 --> 00:15:42,110
she wanted to know
where it was going.
324
00:15:42,280 --> 00:15:44,830
Anyway, look, I told her
I've been consulting with someone
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about my thoughts...
And that was the word, "thoughts"...
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My thoughts about me and her.
327
00:15:51,080 --> 00:15:52,670
And did you get into that,
328
00:15:52,840 --> 00:15:55,640
your thoughts about
the two of you?
329
00:15:55,810 --> 00:15:57,080
No, she shut down.
330
00:15:57,370 --> 00:15:59,390
So anyway, listen. My father...
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Yeah, my father...
He gives me this whole earful.
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He goes downstairs, and, man...
333
00:16:08,440 --> 00:16:10,930
I felt like I had been
hit by a freight train.
334
00:16:16,600 --> 00:16:19,330
I locked myself
in the bathroom and I sat there
335
00:16:20,270 --> 00:16:22,810
so I could just catch my breath.
336
00:16:28,250 --> 00:16:31,660
And when I finally got my shit together
I went back downstairs, and...
337
00:16:33,630 --> 00:16:36,700
And everybody was around
the chessboard again
338
00:16:37,020 --> 00:16:38,930
watching another match,
including Michaela.
339
00:16:39,100 --> 00:16:40,010
And...
340
00:16:41,540 --> 00:16:43,370
You know what it was?
It was my father
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00:16:44,960 --> 00:16:47,570
and my son
and they are locked in this epic battle,
342
00:16:47,740 --> 00:16:49,240
Matching each other move for move.
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Totally out of my league.
344
00:16:51,210 --> 00:16:53,980
And everyone's oohing and ahhing
345
00:16:54,260 --> 00:16:57,250
Aand they didn't even
notice that I was there.
346
00:17:04,600 --> 00:17:06,410
What was it about Roy
that broke your heart
347
00:17:06,580 --> 00:17:08,350
when you were watching him
in his room?
348
00:17:12,720 --> 00:17:14,090
He seemed so...
349
00:17:15,820 --> 00:17:17,470
Vulnerable, somehow.
350
00:17:18,500 --> 00:17:19,940
Vulnerable to what?
351
00:17:21,580 --> 00:17:23,320
I don't know, really.
352
00:17:25,280 --> 00:17:26,410
Everything...
353
00:17:28,600 --> 00:17:30,410
Forces, expectations,
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00:17:32,000 --> 00:17:34,490
Stuff coming at him
that he can't control,
355
00:17:35,090 --> 00:17:36,370
I can't control.
356
00:17:42,750 --> 00:17:45,090
So I slipped out of the house
357
00:17:45,580 --> 00:17:46,980
without anyone knowing.
358
00:17:47,400 --> 00:17:48,760
It was for the better.
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00:17:48,930 --> 00:17:50,100
For whom?
360
00:17:50,550 --> 00:17:51,630
For my boy.
361
00:17:53,590 --> 00:17:55,100
Do you really think that your son
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00:17:55,270 --> 00:17:57,930
is better off
without his father on his birthday?
363
00:17:59,040 --> 00:18:00,250
Yeah, I do.
364
00:18:03,010 --> 00:18:06,040
After that
I got in my car and I drove,
365
00:18:07,170 --> 00:18:09,140
And drove and drove, fast.
366
00:18:09,910 --> 00:18:12,900
And when I finally ran out of gas
it was after dark.
367
00:18:13,200 --> 00:18:15,310
I wound up at this bar
368
00:18:15,610 --> 00:18:17,930
that Sean and Daniel had taken me to.
369
00:18:18,560 --> 00:18:21,060
And I started to drink hard,
370
00:18:22,010 --> 00:18:24,820
looking at all the faggots
prancing around.
371
00:18:26,670 --> 00:18:29,410
I felt like knocking somebody's
teeth down their fucking throat.
372
00:18:33,110 --> 00:18:35,630
But nobody came near me.
They didn't even look at me.
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00:18:36,630 --> 00:18:40,200
It was kind of like they knew like I had
this invisible force field around me.
374
00:18:43,080 --> 00:18:44,700
You said before that
375
00:18:45,030 --> 00:18:46,830
when you started
telling me about the party,
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00:18:47,010 --> 00:18:48,720
that everything
became clear that day.
377
00:18:48,890 --> 00:18:50,780
What was it that became clear?
378
00:18:52,640 --> 00:18:53,950
That I needed to go.
379
00:18:55,030 --> 00:18:56,660
I needed to get back to the Navy...
380
00:18:56,830 --> 00:18:59,350
Discipline, order,
"Yes, sir, no, sir."
381
00:18:59,520 --> 00:19:01,350
Knowing when to go to sleep,
when to wake up,
382
00:19:01,540 --> 00:19:03,360
what to wear, what to eat,
what to do.
383
00:19:03,530 --> 00:19:05,090
To get out of my own head.
384
00:19:05,610 --> 00:19:07,890
This is not for everyone, you know,
this self-Examination.
385
00:19:08,060 --> 00:19:09,170
Some of us...
386
00:19:10,140 --> 00:19:12,150
we just need to live our lives, man.
387
00:19:17,470 --> 00:19:20,040
Why do you think you went
to that particular bar?
388
00:19:22,460 --> 00:19:23,540
I don't know.
389
00:19:27,550 --> 00:19:29,140
I wanted anyone
to so much as breathe
390
00:19:29,310 --> 00:19:31,510
so I could beat the living hell
out of them, that's why.
391
00:19:32,860 --> 00:19:33,940
But nobody did.
392
00:19:41,340 --> 00:19:45,020
Could it be, Alex, that you were there
for exactly the opposite reason?
393
00:19:46,850 --> 00:19:48,300
'Cause no one would question you
394
00:19:48,470 --> 00:19:51,890
or ask you to be anything
other than yourself?
395
00:19:55,110 --> 00:19:58,080
You see, these issues with your father,
with your own identity,
396
00:19:58,250 --> 00:20:00,890
with what you really want for yourself,
397
00:20:02,080 --> 00:20:04,990
these things,
they have to be looked at.
398
00:20:06,440 --> 00:20:09,550
Don't you think it would be better
to deal with them here on the ground
399
00:20:09,720 --> 00:20:12,750
than have them follow you
20,000 feet into the air?
400
00:20:13,040 --> 00:20:15,840
Wait, are you actually
expressing an opinion here?
401
00:20:17,120 --> 00:20:18,820
Are you telling me not to fly?
402
00:20:19,850 --> 00:20:21,160
I can't answer that.
403
00:20:22,370 --> 00:20:24,900
It makes me feel
like you're asking me
404
00:20:25,180 --> 00:20:28,540
to share responsibility for another
major decision in your life.
405
00:20:28,710 --> 00:20:31,150
You know, go back to baghdad,
leave michaela.
406
00:20:32,880 --> 00:20:34,620
I think we're way past that.
407
00:20:35,960 --> 00:20:38,520
I'm not asking you to decide, Paul.
I can decide.
408
00:20:39,410 --> 00:20:40,600
I have decided.
409
00:20:41,900 --> 00:20:44,660
No, i'm asking you,
man to man...
410
00:20:46,940 --> 00:20:48,770
Tell me, what would you do
411
00:20:49,680 --> 00:20:50,850
if you were me?
412
00:21:01,370 --> 00:21:02,690
Alex, if I was you,
413
00:21:03,500 --> 00:21:04,990
I would stay in therapy.
414
00:21:06,340 --> 00:21:08,230
I would continue
to deal with the complex,
415
00:21:08,400 --> 00:21:10,290
difficult issues
that we've been talking about,
416
00:21:10,460 --> 00:21:11,850
not sweep them under the carpet
417
00:21:12,020 --> 00:21:13,830
like you've been doing
in your life.
418
00:21:14,610 --> 00:21:16,180
I can tell you one thing:
419
00:21:17,630 --> 00:21:19,420
They will creep up on you again.
420
00:21:22,150 --> 00:21:24,460
But you won't tell me not to fly.
421
00:21:34,310 --> 00:21:35,550
You know, you're wrong.
422
00:21:36,940 --> 00:21:38,260
I don't make mistakes.
423
00:21:38,670 --> 00:21:41,200
When i'm up in the sky,
that's when i'm in control.
424
00:21:46,450 --> 00:21:47,720
You don't get it yet.
425
00:21:48,770 --> 00:21:50,850
I am the best.
426
00:21:53,430 --> 00:21:54,850
Now, Paul, listen to me.
427
00:21:57,490 --> 00:22:00,070
Don't fuck me up
with this Navy shrink. Please.
428
00:22:01,130 --> 00:22:03,590
Don't take my world
away from me.
429
00:22:22,700 --> 00:22:23,750
Well...
430
00:22:25,470 --> 00:22:26,790
I think we're done.
431
00:22:37,990 --> 00:22:39,160
What is it, doc?
432
00:22:44,450 --> 00:22:46,350
Here's my cell phone.
433
00:22:47,930 --> 00:22:49,660
I want you to call me any time,
434
00:22:49,950 --> 00:22:51,020
day or night,
435
00:22:51,820 --> 00:22:53,760
if you need to talk
about anything, Ok?
436
00:23:06,970 --> 00:23:08,240
I just had a thought.
437
00:23:09,180 --> 00:23:10,970
Soon i'm going to be
flying over the armpit
438
00:23:11,140 --> 00:23:12,570
of the fucking world,
439
00:23:13,260 --> 00:23:14,850
and i'll be thinking about you
440
00:23:15,110 --> 00:23:16,180
in your...
441
00:23:17,300 --> 00:23:18,410
In your chair.
442
00:23:21,340 --> 00:23:22,390
You know, Alex,
443
00:23:23,020 --> 00:23:24,670
I just wanted to say that...
444
00:23:26,410 --> 00:23:28,440
I think you've done
great work here...
445
00:23:29,930 --> 00:23:30,910
Brave.
446
00:23:32,170 --> 00:23:33,180
Really.
447
00:23:35,830 --> 00:23:37,220
I want us to continue that.
448
00:23:40,060 --> 00:23:41,010
Okay?
449
00:23:43,400 --> 00:23:45,300
- Bye, doc.
- Take care, Alex.
450
00:23:59,150 --> 00:24:01,600
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